Quotes About Validation

We do not serve a child's development by making self-repudiation the price of our love.

If I do not feel lovable, it is very difficult to believe that anyone else loves me. If I do not accept myself, how can I accept your love for me? Your warmth and devotion are confusing: it confounds my self-concept, since I "know" I am not lovable.

The tragedy of many people's lives is that they look for self-esteem in every direction except within, and so they fail in their search. In

The lower our self-esteem, the more urgent the need to "prove" ourselves—or to forget ourselves by living mechanically and unconsciously.

But to look to others as a primary source of our self-value is dangerous: first, because it doesn't work; and second, because it exposes us to the danger of becoming approval addicts.

I can fulfill the expectations of others and yet fail my own; I can win every honor and yet feel I have accomplished nothing;

It is a good lesson--though it may often be a hard one--for a man who has dreamed of literary fame, and of making for himself a rank among the world's dignitaries by such means, to step aside out of the narrow circle in which his claims are recognized and to find how utterly devoid of significance, beyond that circle, is all that he achieves, and all that he aims at.

Someone speak to me. Call out to me and take me out. Please, please, I'm begging you, say something kind to me. Tell me I'm pretty, tell me I'm sweet. Invite me out for coffee, or more... Tell me that you want to spend the day with me and me alone.

I never met the boy, or his parents, but I see kids like him every day." Sonia tells Connor. "Their world is shattered, and they're so desperate for validation that they'd blow themselves up to get it. Any parent who disowns that boy after what he did, and didn't do . . . doesn't deserve to have children at all, much less a child to give away.

Do we exist because others perceive our existence, or is, indeed, our own affirmation enough?

Which is worse - to be despised, or to be ignored? — From the gleaning journal of H.S. Curie

My ego says it must be me they're after

Anastasia felt inadequate among the greats, and yet they parted to make sure she was in the midst of them, as an equal.

Too often the people complain that they have done nothing with their lives and then they wait for somebody to tell them that this isn't so.

Beauty is nothing, beauty won't stay. You don't know how lucky you are to be ugly, because if people like you, you know it's for something else.

I feel no grief for being called something which I am not; in fact, it's enthralling, somehow, like a good back rub

Why do you haggle your beauty?" I asked. "Why don't you just live with it?" "Because people think it's all I have. Beauty is nothing, beauty won't stay. You don't know how lucky you are to be ugly, because if people like you you know it's for something else.

I've found out why men sign their names to their works- not that they created them but more than the others did not.

When someone else's truth is the same as your truth, and he seems to be saying it just for you, that's great.

When someone else's truth is the same as your truth, and he seems to be saying it just for you, that's great.

beware those quick to praise for they need praise in return beware those who are quick to censor they are afraid of what they do not know beware those who seek constant crowds for they are nothing alone

I drank in my words like a thirsty man. I even began to believe them.

he tells me that he has seen me in issue No. 5 of Crablegs and Muletears and that I am getting better, and I tell him that I am a slow starter and being only 42

She pointed at me. I felt important. I had lost so many women to so many other guys that it felt good for the thing to be working the other way around.