Quotes About Validation

She was to my ego what Rasputin was to morality, whittling away at my self-image with menaces and put downs viewed as compliments until I realised I was too old, too fat, too tall, too dull, too everything to ever find love.

Blogging Is Pure Vanity

I want to hug him, to hold him, but I also want to slap him until he can see that, objectively, his life is almost perfect. The world loves him; it takes him seriously; Harvard takes him seriously.

I am always someone's accessory, someone's afterthought, the supporting actress in another person's drama and that thought fills me with fire.

Social media draws us further into the already persistent habit of becoming stars of our own little personal movies. The movies we replay in our heads — held on to from lives past — cause us to recycle stories that no longer serve us, if they ever did.

It is very difficult to go through life when your core belief about yourself is that you are incompetent and do not count. When you have no sense of your own value, you are like a leaf in the wind, dependent on what others think of you to know who you are. In order to attain a better quality of life, it is imperative that your loved one develop a sense of mastery, competency, and respect for himself.

People with BPD are usually burdened with strong feelings of worthlessness and shame that are not necessarily supported by the facts of actual situations.

Radical acceptance requires being open to fully experiencing your own life, as it is, without wishing it were not so and without pretending it is different. Acceptance is entering into the reality of this moment, without judgment. Radical acceptance is the fulcrum that balances validation and change.

Western culture does not encourage validating someone's emotional responses, as emotional awareness of daily interactions is counterintuitive to how we normally react. In today's fast-paced society we often do not take the time to notice or acknowledge people's feelings or the efforts they are making to do their jobs. We tend to notice these things even less with the people who are closest to us.

Whatever the theory, it is important to note that clinicians such as Kluft draw attention to the clinical error of insisting that all alters talk as one or that only the alter with the legal name should be validated. 'Such stances are commonly associated with therapeutic failure'.

People tell me I look skinny when they want something from me. What does she want from me?

People clamor to tell their stories in words. This doesn't make them writers, Nor does it make their stories matter.

A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep." My old neighbors...so glad to be free from that negativity.

I wanted to walk into the library on Fifth Avenue with the lions sitting outside and be able to look up my name in the card catalog. I wanted those walls to have just one book with my name on it.

What would become of me if I was never truly seen again?" - Joanna

Life's greatest happiness is to be convinced we are loved.

Beauty is nothing, beauty won't stay. You don't know how lucky you are to be ugly, because if people like you, you know it's for something else.

When you see a woman who can go nowhere without a staff of admirers, it is not so much because they think she is beautiful, it is because she has told them they are handsome.

Having the critics praise you is like having the hangman say you've got a pretty neck.

Inner beauty, too, needs occasionally to be told it is beautiful.

I remember reminding myself that beauty is an opinion, not a fact. And it has always made me feel better.

I'm not traditionally a beauty, but apparently people think I'm alright.

All little girls should be told they are pretty, even if they aren't.

One of the best things for a woman to hear is that she is sexy.