Quotes About Validation

My dad always said, 'Don't worry what people think, because you can't change it.'

Brianna says. "You're a good professor." She condescends through tears.

Applause is a receipt, not a bill.

The person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness in another's keeping .

Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.

The truly powerful ideas are precisely the ones that never have to justify themselves.

Teachings not validated by personal experience are of little value.

But the part of ourselves we hate the most is our longing to be wanted and enjoyed.

Do you need an audience to create work, or does not having an audience liberate you and make you a truer artist?

My favourite bit of advice comes from Dr. Daniel Amen's 18, 40, 60 Rule: "At 18 you worry about what everyone thinks of you. At 40 you don't care. At 60 you realise no one was thinking about you anyway!

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Self-esteem is the difference between where you believe you are and where you think you should be compared to others. If they match, you tend to feel good about yourself. If they don't match, you feel inferior.

I keep fighting voices in my head that say I'm not enough. LAUREN DAIGLE, "YOU SAY

When the Parent Dragons are triggered, you feel like you've done something wrong, you are not good enough or supported, and you are motivated to work harder.

18–40–60 rule. It says that when you are eighteen, you worry about what everyone thinks of you; when you are forty, you don't give a damn what anyone thinks about you; and when you're sixty, you realize no one has been thinking about you at all.

In short, we derive support for our preferred conclusions by listening to the words that we put in the mouths of people who have already been preselected for their willingness to say what we want to hear.

Feelings are self-justifying, with a set of perceptions and "proofs" all their own.

We're designed to be active and engaged. And we know that the richest experiences in our lives aren't when we're clamoring for validation from others, but when we're listening to our own voice-doing something that matters, doing it well, and doing it in the service of a cause larger than ourselves.

First, consider nontangible rewards. Praise and positive feedback are much less corrosive than cash and trophies.

richest experiences in our lives aren't when we're clamoring for validation from others, but when we're listening to our own voice—doing something that matters, doing it well, and doing it in the service of a cause larger than ourselves. So, in the end, repairing the mismatch and bringing our understanding of motivation into the twenty-first century is more than an essential move for business. It's an affirmation of our humanity.

For a child or an adult, it's extremely powerful to hear someone say, "I get you. I understand. I see why you feel this way." This kind of empathy disarms us.

It's also crucial to keep in mind that no matter how nonsensical and frustrating our child's feelings may seem to us, they are real and important to our child. It's vital that we treat them as such in our response.

we can use these opportunities to realize that at these moments, logic isn't our primary vehicle for bringing some sort of sanity to the conversation. (Seems counterintuitive, doesn't it?) It's also crucial to keep in mind that no matter how nonsensical and frustrating our child's feelings may seem to us, they are real and important to our child. It's vital that we treat them as such in our response.

Even if an emotion seems ridiculous to you, don't forget that it's very real to your child, so you don't want to dismiss something that's important to her.