Quotes About Validation

Just because you…achieve what you always thought would make you feel special does not fix that deep-down internal insecurity. External achievement never equals internal acceptance.

In science, foundation-free opinions by self-proclaimed experts are rejected as ipse dixit (roughly translated, "It is so because I say so").

It was like I kept buying these things to be cool, but cool was always flying just ahead of me, and I could never exactly catch up to it.

And it is easy to believe you are not good enough if you listen to everybody else.

One attention from the right person, it's worth more than thousands attentions from wrong people

The more extreme advocates from one side helped to validate the arguments of extremists on the other

Working primarily to please others and to gain their approval takes time and energy away from children's real job of figuring out their authentic talents, skills, and interests.

It is when a parent's love is experienced as conditional on achievement that children are at risk for serious emotional problems.

A lot of my motivation had been to show him that I had value, that I was valued by the world, and so I was worthy of his love and his respect. He had never shown me love or respect.

Grief is a form of validation; it says the wound mattered. It mattered. You mattered.

the great divide lies between men as lovers and men as consumers. Does he seek her out, long for her, because really he yearns for her to meet some need in his life—a need for validation (she makes him feel like a man), or mercy, or simply sexual gratification? That man is a Consumer, as my friend Craig calls him. The lover, on the other hand, wants to fight for her—he wants to protect her, make her life better, wants to fill her heart in every way he can.

Most of our addictions [shopping, food, bad relationships] as women flare up when we feel that we are not loved or sought after.

A man whose identity flows out of deep validation doesn't wilt under criticism. He enjoys applause when it comes but frankly isn't desperate for it. He can walk away from work at five o'clock; he doesn't measure his success by how much money he makes. We grow into this man, to be sure; I'm not setting a new standard of perfection. But what I am describing

Todo hombre anhela que lo elogien y que encima de eso, le paguen bien.

En el caso de padres silenciosos, pasivos o ausentes, la pregunta queda sin respuesta. «¿Tengo lo que se requiere? Papá, ¿soy un hombre?» Su silencio es la respuesta: «No lo sé…

Resist the temptation to explain to her that she is misinterpreting what you said. Once the hurt is there it needs to be heard if it is to be healed. Explanations are helpful only after the hurt is healed with some validation and caring understanding.

To summarize the two most common mistakes we make in relationships: 1. A man tries to change a woman's feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr. Fix-It and offering solutions to her problems that invalidate her feelings. 2. A woman tries to change a man's behavior when he makes mistakes by becoming the home-improvement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism.

When a man feels accepted it is much easier for him to listen and give her the understanding she needs and deserves.

A woman mistakenly thinks that to be worthy of receiving what she really wants, she must keep giving back what she is receiving.

1. A man tries to change a woman's feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr. Fix-It and offering solutions to her problems that invalidate her feelings. 2. A woman tries to change a man's behavior when he makes mistakes by becoming the home-improvement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism. IN

The more a woman's need to be heard and understood is fulfilled, the easier it is for her to give her man the acceptance he needs.

It's a sad culture. People live in a frenzy. They work all the time to make money to buy things to impress other people. They're measured by what they own.

The effort to validate the handwritten will of Seth Hubbard continued to unravel late Sunday morning

I grew to really love the exquisite humiliation of auditioning. When you audition for a role, everything is organized around reminding you that you do not matter. It's the best therapy I ever received.