Quotes About Validation

The three words women most want to hear from a man are, "You lost weight".

No one ever told me I was pretty when I was a little girl. All little girls should be told they're pretty, even if they aren't.

There was my name up in lights. I said, 'God, somebody's made a mistake.' But there it was, in lights. And I sat there and said, 'Remember, you're not a star.' Yet there it was up in lights.

I once wanted to prove myself by being a great actress. Now I want to prove that I'm a person. Then maybe I'll be a great actress.

I have feelings too. I am still human. All I want is to be loved, for myself and for my talent.

No one ever told me I was pretty when I was a little girl. All little girls should be told they're pretty, even if they aren't.

There was my name up in lights. I said, 'God, somebody's made a mistake.' But there it was, in lights. And I sat there and said, 'Remember, you're not a star.' Yet there it was up in lights.

I didn't mind being a goof if only he loved me. I felt when we were together that I walked in the gutter and he on the sidewalk. All I did was keep looking up to see if there was love in his eyes

Naturalmente —replicó el director—, la experiencia me dice que al final los que triunfan son los que dan más valor a lo que ellos creen de sí mismos que a lo que otros creen de ellos.

Dado que estas experiencias de soledad, abandono y falta de valoración se registraron en centros del sistema límbico, no es nada fácil poder acceder a ellos de forma consciente, ya que es la amígdala del lado derecho la más importante en lo que se refiere al registro de recuerdos emocionales traumáticos, sobre todo cuando estos traumas han tenido lugar en etapas tempranas del desarrollo.

A uno siempre le gusta quedar bien, y después de quedar bien le gusta quedar mejor frente a quien quiere, frente a quien uno, a su vez, pretende hacer méritos para ser querido.

Que la mayor prueba de afecto era presisamente demostrar que esa ausencia no le ponia en inferioridad de condiciones frente a los otros

Flattery is so necessary to all of us that we flatter one another to be flattered in return

No one told me anything, Tuya. I was always happy for you to be the smart one. But that didn't mean I was stupid.

Or, when an artist hungry for validation finally receives some, there's a temptation to play to those who offered it, and with that comes the risk of imitating oneself, producing paler, anemic versions of the vital art that you made with no notion of where it was headed, before you'd made anything to imitate.

This lack of support is not simply an absence of encouragement. It can be as deep as the outright denial of some particular way in which we want to express ourselves.

Prophets are not honored in their own land or in their own time either. The future bears them out—or it does not.

Will, it makes me proud to say that you might just be on the verge of not being a complete idiot.

doma touží po moci a v zahrani?í po uznání.

Now we've got an entire generation of fucked-up narcissists 'cause their mamas told them they're special.

These people work hard and do their best, and they want the world to acknowledge that they're intelligent, valuable, and creative.

3. Wait until the person says "Yes." The simple act of saying "Yes" causes the person to move in the direction of agreement rather than hostility. "Yes" also indicates a willingness to pull away from acting out. If the person corrects what you've said in any way, repeat the information you're given.

4. Now say, "And that makes you feel angry/frustrated/ disappointed/upset or what exactly…." Pick the word you think best describes what the person feels. If the person corrects you, ask the person to say what the actual feeling is and repeat it back and get another "Yes." Remember that when someone attaches a word to a feeling, it lowers agitation. That's critical.

This insight works especially well for men who long to hear their fathers say the magic words, "I'm proud of you, son." Men who, as kids, did not have the admiration of their dads feel a gaping deprivation; those who did have it long for sweet boyhood moments they can never recapture. That is why, if you want to see a grown man cry, get him to talk about his father.