Quotes About Validation

Tell me who admires you and loves you, and I will tell you who you are.

A friend is someone who makes me feel totally acceptable.

Sometimes I think [my husband] is so amazing that I don't know why he's with me. I don't know whether I'm good enough. But if I make him happy, then I'm everything I want to be.

I'd spent way more years worrying about how to look like a poet -- buying black clothes, smearing on scarlet lipstick, languidly draping myself over thrift-store furniture -- than I had learning how to assemble words in some discernible order.

There are two things people want more than sex and money... recognition and praise.

Pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, "Make me feel important." Not only will you succeed in sales, you will succeed in life.

There are two things people want more than sex & money... recognition and praise.

Often we lose our identity trying to please or placate others.

Boys liked it when you were starving, like you had starved yourself for them.

Suppose a developer has a conversation with a customer about details of a feature. The conversation should not be considered complete until it is expressed as a customer test.

Sometimes to be seen is the same thing as being saved.

Am I beautiful? It is for you alone. Say that you love me, for without you I cannot live.

People who have earned no pride in themselves, are content to be proud of their cities through other men.

Just as one would never attempt to turn a sports car into a utility truck, it is also critical to avoid the mistake of telling a child who is temperamentally intense, energetic, and sensitive not to be any of those things.

All of us have theories about the world and about ourselves. We will go to great lengths to prove ourselves right because it keeps the world in our head coherent and understandable.

If a woman stands in a kitchen rubbing her eyes and pouring coffee with no one there to see her, does she exist? I

The sense that we are only the sum of our parts—whatever we achieve, however we appear, whatever we own, however we try to prove ourselves—is not a good sense. It's an existential crisis: Do I even exist? If you take away the masks I wear, is there only blank space underneath?

when a woman is thin in this culture, she proves her worth, in a way that no great accomplishment, no stellar career, nothing at all can match.

My god! people say. You have so much self-control! And later: My god. You're so, so sick. When people say this, they turn their heads, you've won your little game. You have proven your thesis that no-body-loves-me-every-body-hates-me, guess-I'll-just-eat-worms. You get to sink back into your hospital bed, shrieking with righteous indignation. See? you get to say. I knew you'd give up on me. I knew you'd leave.

So rare that we are told that we are doing just great, and good enough. So if you are doing all you can, I want you to know I'm proud of you! And I wanted to pass that along. And I hope you feel it, and that you know you're doing ok, 'cause you know. Despite what everyone else is saying, you'll know, and I hope you do!

To be envied for your giftedness is better than to be accepted for your untalentedness.

Don't let anyone or anything make you feel you aren't enough.

You were born worthy of love and you remain worthy of love.

The more 'success' you get, the easier it is to be disappointed by not getting things. The only difference is that now no one feels sorry for you.