Quotes About Validation

When finally I mustered the courage to tell a novelist friend that I was talking to editors about a biography, her reply was, 'Oh, that's okay. That's not a real book.'

The dilemma I have is that everything I do at work is all about me, and at what point is that selfish? I'm just talking and singing about myself, or I'm standing on a stage and hoping that everybody likes me. Obviously, it's also about the music and feeling and connecting; I know it's deeper than that.

Anytime someone talks about your figure constantly, you get nervous; you get really self-conscious.

If the movie is good then great, but if it's not then God, I feel so bad for that person with their face fifty feet tall, all blown up. Some people would be happy with that, that as long as their face was out there they're stoked about it. I'm not like that.

I'm not the tallest or the thinnest - and I think being in shows is a major part of when I stopped second-guessing myself.

I have to remind myself constantly that people actually want to hear the music I've made; that's hard for me to digest. I think a live audience is the only tangible evidence you can have that your work is making an impact. It's really humbling.

I don't know if there's ever a point where you go, 'Oh, I'm successful now. Look at all this great stuff I've done,' because I don't think it can be tangible in that way.

Will.i.am and I performed at Wango Tango. That's when my daughter said that I had made it in music.

Having a Nobel Prize or being a famous scientist will get you a week to a week and a half, metaphorically speaking, of a hearing for your new idea, but after that, it's going to tank if you don't have the evidence and support for it.

I used to do fake tanning because I was told that I didn't look great.

All children wear a sign that says, 'I want to be important NOW!' Many of our problems with today's youth arise because nobody reads the sign." —REVEREND JESSE JACKSON

I love being famous. It validates that I have something to say.

Interestingly, the patients who presented to me self-diagnosed [with Dissociative Identity Disorder] had tried to tell previous therapists of their plight, but had been disbelieved. These therapists had used fallacious "capricious criteria" (KIuft, 1988) to discredit the diagnosis; e.g., that the patient could not possibly have MPD because she was aware of the other alters [sic!].

Knowing your self-worth isn't something others can validate. You either believe it or you don't.

most people don't want truth. They want confirmation.

We live in a world that's always making us work for love. It's cause and effect. That's the story of my childhood. If I can be good enough, maybe my mother will love me.

The relationship between a patient and a counselor is a peculiar thing. I find myself wanting to act more sane to win her approval.

You will see that when it comes to the masses, the stupider the individual, the more they want to prove it to the world.

We live in a world that's always making us work for love. It's cause and effect. That's the story of my childhood. If I can be good enough, maybe my mother will love me. "The problem is, somewhere along the way you figure out that you can't ever be good enough. It finally just got to be too much for me. You hit this point where you just want to scream, 'Love me for who I am or get out of my life.

I spent most of my life trying to earn my mother's love before I learned that love can't be earned. Earned love isn't love; it's an emotional wage, a paycheck for time served.

Truth is what your contemporaries let you get away with.

An author, when he first appears in the world, is very apt to believe it has nothing to think of but his Performances.

The subjects of her talk didn't matter; he knew what she was really saying. Helpless and gentle, small and tired and anxious to please, she was asking him to agree that her life was not a failure.

I want your opinion.? ?That,? Adrian said, ?is not something I hear a lot.?