Quotes About Validation

human beings have an intense craving, often unfulfilled, to be understood by someone else.

Since narcissism is fueled by a greater need to be admired than to be liked, psychologists might use that fact as a therapeutic lever - stressing to patients that being known as a narcissist will actually cause them to lose the respect and social status they crave.

the higher one rises in an organization, the more likely it is that people will tell you you're right. People will agree with powerful leaders as a strategy of ingratiation, as nothing is as flattering as others' telling you how right and how smart you are.

It is not your job to prove your value to anyone. It is your job to find the people that already value what you do.

Love means saying to someone else's story or pain or anger or experience: "I'm listening. Tell me more." Love refuses to deny or dismantle another's perspective simply because I don't share it.

Popularity is a terrible goal, because you have to lose yourself to find it.

What other people think of you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

And while there are countless ways that we rip ourselves off, there's one way in particular that is, without a doubt, the most rampant and the most devastating of all: we invest everything we've got in believing that we're not good enough.

Because if you base your self-worth on what everyone else thinks of you, you hand all your power over to other people and become dependent on a source outside of yourself for

Because if you base your self-worth on what everyone else thinks of you, you hand all your power over to other people and become dependent on a source outside of yourself for validation.

we invest everything we've got in believing that we're not good enough. We arrive here as perfect little bundles of joy and then set about the task of learning to un-love ourselves! How unbelievably ridiculous is that?! Self-love, the simplest yet most powerful thing ever, flies right out the window when we start taking in outside information. I

One day you might realize you can no longer remember the names of the people whose approval you o desperately thought you would die without

At the end of the day, it's not about them, it's about you believing you're worthy of being loved and seen for who you really are.

People are always gonna talk, and to tell you the truth I love it. I love the attention. I do what I do because it puts a smile on my face, and I'm the only one in the world that matters.

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Call a girl pretty once, and all she wants, forevermore, is to hear it again.

In the end, at least, I got what I wanted - a stage to stand on, an audience to applaud. For all of Paris watches me now. They talk of nothing else. In the Assembly, in the coffeehouses, in the laundries and factories and market stalls, they talk of the fireworks. The broadsheets are full of my doings, every one. No player has ever managed that, not even the great Talma himself. But there is only one in the audience I care about now. Only one.

It's one thing to think you're worthless, and quite another for somebody else to tell you that you are.

When does a fake Mohawk become a real Mohawk? Who decides? How do you know if it's happened?

I]t may be that a crowd at a particular moment of history creates the object to justify its gathering.

until it seemed like everything in Danny's life was the witness he needed to prove he was still himself, still Danny King exactly like before: See, I scored a goal! See, I'm hanging with my friends! But he wasn't one hundred percent there, he was watching, too, hoping everyone would be convinced.

We're paying him an awful lot of money to tell us we're wonderful. And then, as if another voice had interposed itself, Nice work if you can get it.

Knowing all of this makes us one step closer to being real, but not completely. When does a fake Mohawk become a real Mohawk? Who decides? How do you know it's happened?

Was this a statement or a question? With teenage girls, it was hard to know. They seemed at every juncture to be looking for agreement, consensus, affirmation. To be reassured that they weren't wrong.