Quotes About Codependency

De todas formas no es solamente una confusión, es un argumento falso. El codependiente, en realidad, no ama. Necesita, reclama, depende… Pero no ama.

Por eso suelo decir que el codependiente no ama; él necesita, él reclama, él depende, pero no ama

Codependency is when we look outside of ourselves to meet a need that only God Himself can meet in our heart. This is the primary strategy of political

Boundary confusion is one of the foundation blocks upon which a dysfunctional, codependent personality is developed.

The fear of man is no respecter of persons. It might be called codependency by adults, peer pressure with teens, and shyness with children, but whatever it is called, it all betrays the same idolatrous heart.

It's hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing 'right,' which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will actually disappear.

It is almost impossible to fall in love with majesty, power, or perfection. These make us fearful and codependent, but seldom truly loving. On some level, love can only happen between equals, and vulnerability levels the playing field. What Christians believe is that God somehow became our equal when he became the human Jesus, a name that is, without doubt, the vulnerable name for God.

All societies are addicted to themselves and create deep codependency on them. There are shared and agreed-upon addictions in every culture and every institution. These are often the hardest to heal because they do not look like addictions because we have all agreed to be compulsive about the same things and blind to the same problems.

If you ever feel the person in your life needs rescuing, particularly from him or herself - beware. Codependency is rearing its head again.

Recovery [from codependency] may not always be comfortable at first for the other people in one's life. But it is always worth it because, actually, nobody ever respects a 'doormat'.

But codependency is inappropriate, over-the-top loyalty, caring and supportiveness.

Battered by the forcefulness of the narcissist's accusatory projections and inability to engage in a meaningful exchange, we witness the codependent's continued deterioration as she descends into a true victim experience.

What inspired the mystery series as a whole was my desire to write about recovery from alcoholism, codependency, and other addictions and compulsive behaviors. Recovery is an amazing transformational process that sometimes verges on the miraculous. Many people know little or nothing about it, and many others think it must be dark and depressing. I wanted to create engaging characters in recovery to manage to have some fun in the process of turning their lives around.

buying him clothes to improve his self-image • finding a therapist for him and begging him to go • financing expensive hobbies to help him use his time better • going through disruptive geographic relocations because "he's not happy here" • giving him half or all of our property and possessions so he won't feel inferior to us • providing him with a place to live so that he can feel secure

When children focus on their parents and neglect themselves, they never develop the inner resources that help them to know how to feel, think, or behave in a given situation. This is the essence of codependency and a damaged boundary system.

Much has been written about codependency. All agree that it is about the loss of selfhood. Codependency is a condition wherein one has no inner life. Happiness is on the outside. Good feelings and self-validation lie on the outside. They can never be generated from within.

Although not as exaggerated as the grandiosity of the narcissistically defended child, the codependent child now manifests a measure of grandiosity in her own right—the extraordinary helper.

painful truth that, without outside help, the codependent partner will accommodate to the functional level of the less healthy partner.

I believe I was a codependent out of the womb and have been struggling to free myself from its vice-like grip for many, many years.

When a codependent is drowning, somebody else's life flashes before his eyes.

Codependents: don't trust themselves. don't trust their feelings. don't trust their decisions. don't trust other people. try to trust untrustworthy people.

A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

Once they have been affected---once it sets in---codependency takes on a life of its own. It is similar to catching pneumonia or picking up a destructive habit. Once you've got it, you've got it. If you want to get rid of it, YOU have to do something to make it go away. It doesn't matter whose fault it is. Your codependency becomes your problem; solving your problems is your responsibility.

I want to thank each person who has the courage to push through and past the set of coping behaviors we've come to label as codependency—who learn what it means to take care of themselves. "Nobody taught me how to take care of myself," a fifty-year-old woman told me recently. "I didn't have enough money to go to therapy, but I had enough to buy a book.