Quotes About Empathy

They are so in touch with themselves that they are open toward everyone." What

Knowing that our kids live with and through whatever we're experiencing is a powerful insight that can motivate us to begin and continue our journey toward understanding our own stories, the joys as well as the pain.

like sound decision making, control of their emotions and bodies, empathy, self-understanding, and morality—are dependent on a part of their brain that hasn't fully developed yet. Since

Qué es lo más importante que puedo hacer por mis hijos para ayudarlos a salir adelante y a sentirse a gusto en el mundo?

The basic approach, though, usually entails listening and providing lots of verbal and nonverbal empathy. This is how we attune to our children, tuning in to the inner life of their mind—to their feelings and thoughts, to their perceptions and memories, to what has inner subjective meaning in their lives.

Sin embargo, queremos enseñarles que la empatía consiste poco en dar consejos ni en encontrar el lado afirmativo de las cosas. Consiste más en escuchar, hacer compañía y compartir los sentimientos. Queremos enseñarles frases como: «Eso duele mucho» o «No sé qué decir, pero siento que haya pasado eso».

fin y al cabo, el cerebro izquierdo lógico del niño estaba en ese momento totalmente inactivo. Por consiguiente, si Tina hubiese respondido con el izquierdo, su hijo habría sentido que ella no lo entendía o que no le importaba lo que sentía. Se hallaba inmerso en un aluvión emocional, no racional, del cerebro derecho, y una

Una paternidad basada en el cerebro pleno nos permite ir más allá de la simple supervivencia.

Tina se contuvo. En lugar de eso, empleó la técnica de conectar y redirigir. Lo estrechó, le frotó la espalda y, con tono maternal, dijo: «A veces las cosas se ponen difíciles, ¿verdad que sí? Yo nunca te olvidaría. Siempre te tengo presente, y quiero que sepas en todo momento lo especial que eres para mí».

The act of considering the mind of another requires us to use our right hemisphere and our upstairs brain, both of which are part of the social circuitry that allows us to enjoy mature and fulfilling relationships.

This pause between reactive and responsive is the beginning of choice, intention, and skillfulness as a parent.

Conforme los niños se desarrollan, sus cerebros «reflejan» el cerebro de sus padres. Dicho de otro modo, el propio crecimiento y desarrollo de sus padres, o su ausencia, inciden en el cerebro del niño.

You can do your kids a lot of good simply by asking, "What are some ideas you have to make it better and solve this problem?" Given the chance once they're calm, kids will usually do the right thing, and learn in the process.

Parents often respond to their child's behavior by focusing on the surface level of the experience and not on the deeper level of the mind.

Así ampliamos su zona verde: enseñándoles con cariño que pueden frustrarse y fracasar y que superar la frustración y el fracaso los hará más fuertes y más sabios.

It's not how our parents raised us, or how many parenting books we've read. It's actually how well we've made sense of our experiences with our own parents and how sensitive we are to our children that most powerfully influence our relationship with our kids,

inhibiting impulses, managing big angry feelings, and considering the impact of their behavior on others. Learning

When we help our children name their pain and their fears, we help them tame them.

spoiling has nothing to do with connecting with your child when he's upset or making bad choices. Remember, you can't spoil a child by giving him too much emotional connection, attention, physical affection, or love. When our children need us, we need to be there for them.

stage, and what they are ultimately capable of. This is how we use our own mindsight skills to see the mind behind our children's behavior.

Would you like to walk to the car? Or I can carry you there. It's your choice." Then she'd need to make it happen. So yes, we want to always connect with our children emotionally.

Y cuando un padre o una madre está alterado, es muy difícil que un niño esté tranquilo y feliz.

Debemos procurar que nuestros hijos, además de sentirse seguros y vistos, se sientan consolados en sus horas más difíciles. Eso no significa –ni mucho menos– que los rescatemos de toda situación dolorosa e incómoda. Es un hecho que a menudo cuando más aprenden y maduran

Explained most simply, mindsight is the ability to see our own mind, as well as the mind of another. It allows us to develop meaningful relationships while also maintaining a healthy and independent sense of self. When we ask our children to consider their own feelings (using personal insight) while also imagining how someone else might experience a particular situation (using empathy), we are helping them develop mindsight.