Quotes About Empathy

If his mother hadn't helped him tell and understand the story, Marco's fears would have been left unresolved and could have surfaced in other ways.

the behaviors and skills we want and expect our kids to demonstrate, like sound decision making, control of their emotions and bodies, empathy, self-understanding, and morality—are dependent on a part of their brain that hasn't fully developed yet.

Cuando los niños incrementan la capacidad de conocerse a sí mismos, de tener en cuenta los sentimientos de los demás y de tomar medidas para arreglar una situación, crean y fortalecen conexiones en el lóbulo frontal, lo cual les permite conocerse mejor y llevarse bien con los otros mientras avanzan hacia la adolescencia y la edad adulta.

También es esencial tener en cuenta que por mucho que los sentimientos de nuestro hijo nos parezcan frustrantes y absurdos, para él son reales e importantes. Es fundamental tratarlos como tales en nuestra respuesta.

deep, empathic connection can and should be combined with clear and firm boundaries that create needed structure in children's lives.

In fact, research shows that merely assigning a name or label to what we feel literally calms down the activity of the emotional circuitry in the right hemisphere.

Think back about the functions of the upstairs brain: good decision making, control over emotions and body, flexibility, empathy, self-understanding, and morality. These are the aspects of our kids' character we want to develop, right? As we put it in The Whole-Brain Child, we want to engage the upstairs brain, rather than enraging the downstairs brain. Engage, don't enrage.

If the sponge (mirror) neurons are our receiver, then our subcortical areas are the amplifier. These subcortical shifts are what changes in us when we attune to someone else.

Simply by drawing your child's attention to other people's emotions during everyday encounters, you can open up whole new levels of compassion within them and exercise their upstairs brain. Scientists are beginning more and more to think

Mindsight is a teachable skill at the heart of being empathic and insightful, moral and compassionate. Mindsight is the basis of social and emotional intelligence, and we can model this for our children as we help guide the development of their changing brains.

we parent, and especially when we discipline, we need to work hard to understand our children's points of view, their developmental stage, and what they are ultimately capable of.

do we want to teach our kids that the way to resolve a conflict is to inflict physical pain, particularly on someone who is defenseless and cannot fight back?

We don't simply react to their external actions, we tune in to the mind behind the behavior.

I know you're sad, and I understand that you want to ride with me. I would like that, too. But we can't make that work today. Would you like to climb in or would you like Daddy to help you get in the car now? Daddy will be with you to comfort you on the way to school. I love you and I'll see you this afternoon." And with that, the front-porch situation ended, with Tim holding a crying Nina as he carried her to his car.

teach reflection, relationships, and resilience.

Utiliza los momentos de disciplina como oportunidades para enseñar y crear aptitudes. Modela la amabilidad, el respeto y el cuidado de uno mismo. Discúlpate cuando pierdas una oportunidad de conectar o metas la pata de otra manera. Ellos

Kids whose parents talk to them about their feelings also develop a more robust emotional intelligence and can therefore be better at noticing and understanding their own and other people's feelings. Neurons that fire together wire together, changing the changeable brain.

activate them in a moment of distress by first connecting before redirecting.

ayudar a los niños a sentirse 1) seguros: se sienten protegidos y libres de todo mal; 2) vistos: saben que les importas y les prestas atención; 3) consolados: saben que estarás a su lado en los malos momentos; y 4) a salvo: basándose en las otras condiciones, confían en que, previsiblemente, los ayudes a sentirse «a gusto» en el mundo, y después aprenden a ayudarse a sí mismos a sentirse seguros, vistos y consolados.

However, if we truly love our kids and want what's best for them, we need to be able to tolerate the tension and discomfort they (and we) may experience when we set a limit. We want to say yes to our children as often as possible, but sometimes saying no is the most loving thing we can do.

Our kids don't usually lash out at us because they're simply rude, or because we're failures as parents. They usually lash out because they don't yet have the capacity to regulate their emotional states and control their impulses.

when your seven-year-old becomes defiant and calls you "Fart-face Jones" after you tell him it's time to leave his playdate, he's actually saying, "I need skill building when it comes to handling myself well and communicating my disappointment respectfully when I don't get my way." By misbehaving, kids actually communicate to us what they need to be working on—what has not yet been developed or what specific skills they need practice with.

The key to clinical attunement is to be willing to say "I don't know" and "tell me more." Your intention to help, a neural stance of positive regard likely involving the social engagement system and having a desire to connect and to assist, is woven together with an interest in supporting another with kindness and

El mindsight aparece cuando nuestra comunicación, con los demás y con nosotros mismos, nos ayuda a reflexionar sobre quiénes somos y sobre lo que sucede en nuestro interior.