Quotes from Bruce D. Perry

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Your own experiences and the echoes of your ancestors' experiences influence the way you think, feel, and behave.

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But if the adults who live with, teach, and treat these children are not regulated, they will not be able to be fully present in a compassionate, regulated way.

la recuperación de un trauma requiere que la víctima regrese a una situación que le resulte predecible y segura.

Isolated and disconnected, we are vulnerable. In community, we can protect one another, cooperatively hunt and gather, share with the dependents of our family, our clan. Relational glue keeps our species alive, and love is relational superglue

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Los niños reconstruyen los acontecimientos mediante juegos, dibujos y en sus interacciones diarias.

The developmental process is very front-loaded, meaning that the majority of brain growth and organization takes place in the first years of life. Now, this doesn't mean that the brain won't change after early childhood, but early life experiences do have a very powerful impact on how we develop.

human beings have been human beings—in this genetic form—for about 250,000 years. And for 99.9 percent of that time, we lived in hunter-gatherer bands of relatively small multifamily groups.

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Creamos recuerdos, pero los recuerdos también nos crean a nosotros, y se trata de un proceso dinámico en constante cambio que está sujeto a sesgos e influencias de diversas fuentes ajenas al acontecimiento actual que tenemos "almacenado". Lo que experimentamos primero filtra lo que vendrá después.

Born for Love, about the essential nature of empathy.

is in the small moments, when we feel the other person fully present, fully engaged, connected, and accepting, that we make the most powerful, enduring bonds.

When young children hear fewer words, they can still learn to speak—they'll just be less fluent. In the same way, when children have fewer relational interactions, they'll still develop social capabilities—they'll just be less mature, more self-centered, more self-absorbed.

Neglect is most destructive early in life, when the brain is rapidly growing; early neglect interferes with the child's getting the necessary stimulation required for normal development.

the most powerful and enduring human interactions are often very brief. You can spend hours with someone, but if you are not present and attentive, the hours are less powerful than these brief cereal moments.

many people in our society, including children and youth, are touch-starved. Healthy touch is not well understood. We actually have schools where tiny toddlers whose impulse is to run up and hug a classmate or teacher are told not to touch; in return, the teachers and other caregivers are not allowed to touch the children. But it's simply unhealthy for a three-or four-year-old child to go eight hours without touching or hugging or playfully wrestling with another person.

we feel better with the certainty of misery than the misery of uncertainty

Good or bad, we are attracted to things that are familiar.

Our society's transgenerational social fabric is fraying. We're disconnecting. I think that's making us more vulnerable to adversity, and I think it's a significant factor in the increases in anxiety, suicide, and depression we are seeing currently, even before the COVID-19 pandemic.

That's not necessarily bad—until it becomes so pleasing and engaging to the brain that we begin to prefer it to other less-stimulating, less-busy sensory input. An infant or toddler consumed by a screen is missing out on other critical forms of learning about the world. They should be exploring what things feel like, smell like, taste like. They should be making sense of their world using all their sensory tools.

done. Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. But we cannot move forward if we're still holding on to the pain of that past. All of us who have been broken and scarred by trauma have the chance to turn those experiences into what Dr. Perry and I have been talking about: post-traumatic wisdom. Forgive yourself, forgive them. Step out of your history and into the path of your future.

Yes, I believe every environment has a tone. If you were to walk into any home as a stranger, not speaking the language, you could absolutely feel whether this is a place where people are loved.