Quotes from Bruce D. Perry

But all of the successful models have one thing in common: They emphasize regulation and connection.

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Perry: This is one of the central problems in our society; we have too many parents caring for children with inadequate supports. The result is what you would expect. An overwhelmed, exhausted, dysregulated parent will have a hard time regulating a child consistently and predictably. This can impact the child in two really important ways.

Our brain is organized to act and feel before we think.

But being on the bottom of any power differential makes life a lot harder. If you don't belong to the "in" group, your marginalization can contribute to feelings of not belonging.

The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.

There is a difference between thinking you deserve to be happy and knowing you are worthy of happiness.

Las alteraciones producidas en las regiones del cerebro encargadas de mantener esta cadencia a menudo son la causa de depresiones y de otros trastornos psiquiátricos.

Your own experiences and the echoes of your ancestors' experiences influence the way you think, feel, and behave. They are major determinants of your health. And being aware of this can help us remember that everything we do right now is going to echo into the future. Our actions matter; we are impacting the next generations. So are we being as mindful as we could?

Our current public education system is good at producing workers, but it can be a miserable place for creators, artists, and future leaders.

Emotions are powerful markers of context .

All incoming sensory information from the present moment is compared to and influenced by the "memories" of previous experiences

All incoming sensory information from the present moment is compared to and influenced by the "memories" of previous experiences, and is first processed in the lower, more reactive areas of the brain before reaching the rational, "thinking" areas.

Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives. — Oprah Winfrey

if you have experienced trauma but haven't excavated it, the wounded parts of you will affect everything you've managed to build.

Consequently, the most powerful rewards we can receive are the attention, approval, and affection of people we love and respect. Similarly, the most powerful pain we experience is the loss of that attention, approval, and affection- the most obvious example being, of course, the death of a loved one. This is why even our greatest intellectual, athletic, or professional triumphs seem empty if we have no one with whom to share them.

Though we all ''perform'' for others to some extent, the mask slips easily for those who have sufferd early neglect.

More than 130 million babies are born in the world every year.

The key to healthy development is getting the right experiences in the right amounts at the right time.

Human beings fear what they don't understand. The unknown scares us.

She said that until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. The wounds will bleed through and stain your life, through alcohol, through drugs, through sex, through overworking. You have to have the courage to pull out the wound and begin to heal yourself. This is the lesson I hope everyone carries with them from our conversation, too.

It's important to clarify that most people who are abused don't go on to abuse others in the same way. On the other hand, it is becoming clear that it's the very rare person who has been abused who doesn't have some form of adaptation that impacts how they deal with people. It doesn't have to be a "pathology," but it can influence the ways in which you form and maintain relationships.

Our brains develop as a reflection of the world we grow up with.

Here is the confusing part: James felt most comfortable when the world was in line with his worldview. Being rejected or treated poorly validated this view. The most destabilizing thing for anyone is to have their core beliefs challenged. As psychologist Virginia Satir puts it, we feel better with the certainty of misery than the misery of uncertainty. Good or bad, we are attracted to things that are familiar.