Quotes from Bruce D. Perry

The example of Mr. Roseman involves traumatic experiences that took place when he was twenty-four years old. If these experiences changed the brain of a twenty-four-year-old, imagine the impact of trauma on the brain of an infant or toddler—how much more pervasive the effects would be.

All of us who have been broken and scarred by trauma have the chance to turn those experiences into what Dr. Perry and I have been talking about: post-traumatic wisdom.

If you look carefully at our biology after a traumatic experience-all the way down to the way genes are expressed-trauma will change everyone in some way.

The struggles I endured as a child are what allowed me to recognize and care about pain in others. The validation I longed for as a child is what I see other people longing for just as intensely.

We know that a dysregulated adult cannot regulate a dysregulated child. An exhausted, frustrated, dys-regulated adult can't regulate anybody.

Forgive yourself, forgive them. Step out of your history and into the path of your future.

Adversity impacts the developing child. Period. What the impact will be, when it may manifest, how it may be "buffered"-we can't always say. But developmental trauma will always influence our body and brain.

Creo que no seremos capaces de prevenir este tipo de incidentes hasta que hagamos un esfuerzo mucho mayor para asegurarnos de que todos los estudiantes se sienten incluidos en su comunidad escolar.

What happened to you can be your power.

evocative cues"—basically any sensory input, like a sight, sound, smell, taste, or touch—can activate a traumatic memory.

el castigo, la privación y la fuerza únicamente consiguen volver a traumatizar a estos niños y exacerbar sus problemas.

And single parents, like your mother, often end up feeling like they are inadequate—that there is something wrong with them, that they aren't enough. When really, it's the modern world that's not enough.

This is why people are most vulnerable in the first six months after major transitions—after leaving the safe, stable, and known behind to start building a new set of connections.

las alteraciones en los sistemas de serotonina, norepinefrina y dopamina están implicadas en conductas antisociales, violentas y agresivas.

los detectores de mentiras, que normalmente miden las respuestas físicas relacionadas con la ansiedad y el estrés

A child in an environment where they feel loved and safe will choose to leave their comfort zone. Safe and familiar is "boring"; a safe and stable child is a curious child-they want to explore new things. A child who feels unsafe, however, won't want this. It's an essential rule of healthy development: A sense of safety and stability provides a foundation for healthy growth.

And this is why you can't be in a corporation and address these issues by simply having everyone go to an anti-racism course or cultural-sensitivity training. You don't get trained in cultural sensitivity—you go spend time immersed in the culture, spend time with other people.

Touch is as essential for healthy physical and emotional development as calories and vitamins. If infants aren't held or rocked—if they don't experience the loving warmth of a caregiver's touch—they won't grow. In fact, they can die.

one of the most powerful tools we use to help regulate a distressed infant is rhythm.

Dr. Perry: That vibration, as you describe it, equates to the emotional tone of the environment.

Oprah: Yes, I believe every environment has a tone. If you were to walk into any home as a stranger, not speaking the language, you could absolutely feel whether this is a place where people are loved. Just as you can sense when something's off. You may not know what it is, but something feels off.

efecto mariposa»:

The roots of health are rhythm and regulation. When you mix in attentive, responsive, and nurturing caregiving, the roots and trunk of our brain's Tree of Regulation are being organized (see Figure 2).

In many ways, the result of our society's poverty of relationships is a form of social and emotional starvation. Our children are starving.