Quotes from Iyanla Vanzant

The only thing that goes on in your life is what your allow to go on in your life

You've got to know what your 'thing' is, and you've got to call it a 'thing,' whether it's meanness, nastiness, un-forgiveness, arrogance, ego, resistance, rebelliousness or defiance. Everybody's got a 'thing,' and once you call your 'thing' a 'thing,' we can give it a place to be or dismiss it.

There is a lot of healing going on. Really! More people are vegetarians, more are in the green movement, more of us are tearing down the old paradigms and embracing same-sex marriage, single motherhood, men raising babies.

When Oprah Winfrey tells you that you need to have your own show, you feel compelled to do it. Especially if she's gonna pay for it!

Spiritual consciousness does not make your problems go away; it does, however, help you view them from a different vantage point.

When you believe, or are led to believe, you are unable to act upon the greatest desires of the soul, the result is mental and spiritual enslavement.

As we learn to see each other through our spiritual eyes, the physical differences will cease to matter.

People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life. You are!

Until you are willing to accept total and complete responsibility for every aspect of your life, your life will keep sending you experiences designed to get your attention.

Everybody does not have to like you. That is not their job. Liking you is not anyone's purpose in life except yours.

Begin within. If it shows up in your life, it's coming to tell you something about you that you're acting like you don't know. Something about yourself, or your relationship with God.

Thinking is the problem. Thinking is hazardous to your progress in life. Don't think - feel.

One of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs - blame and projection.

I'm really not that fierce.

Well the beauty of 'Iyanla: Fix My Life' is that men are in every show. To our surprise, some of the deepest healing demonstrations have been with the men - the sons, the fathers, the husbands - because they agree to participate with the wife or the daughter or whatever it is we are looking at, and it is there.

I try not to set myself up as different or as a celebrity or special. I have a husband that can get on my nerves. I have kids that test my patience. I've got a cat I can't keep off the sofa. It's real. On a bad day, I'm reading 'Acts of Faith.'

You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.

You are not being tested! You are being fortified! Remember, you cannot fail!

The way to achieve your own success is to be willing to help somebody else get it first.

It's time for you to move, realizing that the thing you are seeking is also seeking you.

With all things in life, we do not get what we ask for, we get what we expect.

No whining, no complaining about anyone. Everybody in your life has come to teach you lessons.

The only energy that has any power in your life is the gift of breath from God.

The remedy for life's broken pieces is not classes, workshops or books. Don't try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive.