Quotes from Iyanla Vanzant

I hope that my story, I hope that my life is... an encouragement for people, especially in Brooklyn. I feel humbled and blessed.

Why are you measuring? This is how you block, delay, hinder, obstruct and deny his place in the life as a father.

I was sitting on the bus, and the sign said if you're ready to better your life, come to Medgar Evers College, and I got off the bus and went to Medgar Evers College.

My vision is to elevate the consciousness of humanity one mind, one heart, one life, one spirit at a time. They are married.

I realized it was happening, but most people didn't realize it was happening. I mean, because as a self-employed person, when there is a recession or a cutback in the economy, we feel it first. Because many self-employed people provide services that are nonessential.

Any time there is 'un-forgiveness' between people who love each other, there is suffering. Any time people face challenges that they really don't understand... there is suffering.

At birth, we are like cartilage - soft, flexible tissue. By the same natural process by which cartilage becomes hard bone, the soft, tender heart of an innocent child can become hardened by the circumstances into which she is born.

We really don't know how to love each other because we haven't really learned to love ourselves. In many instances, not all, it's not malicious. We've just been conditioned to such bad behavior.

Order is the first law of heaven, and you have to have order to survive on Earth. Figure out what has to be done each day, each week, each year and develop a system to achieve it.

Most of us have just learned to exercise our survival muscle. It's time to build our victory muscle.

When you don't show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you're not. Then when they find out who you are, that's when they leave.

Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it's the place where we find the deepest heartache.

If you should encounter angry or unkind actions today, take a deep breath, reach deep within and greet the lack of love with love.

Talk about your negative experiences with the father, with your girlfriends. Not with your children. And bite your tongue when it comes to diminishing, denying, dismissing, name-calling.

I wasn't ready for fame and all that brings to your life. It was an amazing experience, but so overwhelming, because no one can tell you beforehand when it will happen or how it will impact you. So no one can tell you how to handle it, being stopped everywhere you go because people saw you on 'Oprah.' It took me over, and I wasn't ready.

I'm focusing on healing lives and teaching people that they can heal - giving them tools to heal.

Had I not spent so much time doing something that made me so miserable, I would have never learned how to appreciate doing what brings me joy.

The thing I always tell my audiences all the time is that I'm just two steps ahead of you on a good day. And I might be two steps behind you on a bad day.

Any time in America when the military has to stand in opposition of their own citizenry, something is wrong.

When two broken people bring their broken pieces together, chances are they will never become a whole anything.

I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the surface.

Your divine mate already exists. When you get to the place in yourself that is peaceful divine love, your true mate will be revealed.

You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all.

When do you feel most loved? Are you willing to be loved today? Self-love is the magnet that attracts deep and profound expressions of love from others