Quotes from Greg Behrendt

Feeling in love (or lust) and fear feel a lot alike. They both give you that anxious butterfly feeling in your stomach, a sense of excitement, and a general unease physically and mentally. It's easy to confuse love with fear.

You are not easily forgotten.

We have become a sloppy bunch of people. We say things we don't mean. We make promises we don't keep.

Life's biggest rewards come from the biggest challenges

So many of us find ourselves saying, "but he was so great!" Yes, and the people who got on the Titanic thought they were going on vacation. Things changed and it's important to remember that they did.

Bored with the same type of misery over and over and over again.

There's a guy out there who will want to tell everyone that he is your boyfriend. Quit goofing around and go find him.

Meeting someone you like and dating him is supposed to make you feel better, not worse.

Before you look for validation in others, try and find it in yourself

Hey, Hot Stuff, Can't wait till you get over that guy you were with. He sounds like a real jerk. Hope it's soon. You're way too tasty to be alone for too long. Come find me. I'm out here waiting. Your Future

It's very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less - even a vague pathetic facsimile of less - than you would have ever imagined. Remember always what you set out to get and please don't settle for less.

A good indication that it's not is if you're only staying with What's His Name because you're scared.

Is he making you happy? I don't mean some of the time, on rare occasions, not that often, "but the good still outweighs the bad." Does he make it clear in his actions every day that your happiness is important to him?

If he's choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn't respect your feelings and needs.

You can't fix people or make them change; the only thing you can do is pack your shit and leave if it isn't working for you.

There was no closure to be had, just jail time in my head. What's he doing? What's he thinking? Does he still love me? Does he love her more? Is he thinking that he made a mistake? It doesn't matter, because the cold hard truth was that he didn't love me enough to want to be with me. It took me a while, but I ultimately realized that I had to physically separate myself from all the things that were keeping me stuck inside my obsessive mind.

He's just not that into you.

Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with.

What sucks even more is getting hung up on the what is he thinking and feeling? shit. Does he miss me as much as I miss him? No. If he did, you'd know it by his actions. Is he seeing someone else? Maybe. Probably. Or at least he's planning on it. Again-it sucks, but if you get real about it you'll realize that knowing the answers to these questions still doesn't change the fact that your relationship didn't make the cut.

Anyone who assesses you or your relationship as disposable is not worthy of your time or tears.

People don't respond to what you tell them; they respond to what you show them.

You already have one asshole. You don't need another.

The only reason people compromise themselves is because they don't feel strongly enough about themselves and are looking for another person to fix it for them, either sexually or emotionally. That's why it is imperative that you get to a place where you like yourself, even if just for the added bonus of weeding out the creeps.

There are things in life you can change—your weight, your appearance, your mindset, etc.—but there is one thing you cannot change and that is other people. Try as we might we cannot get people to love us. Even when we are the coolest best version of ourselves someone is going to say, "Not for me." But if we feel good about ourselves we can shrug it off and say, "It's just a f***ing date," and know that there will be others.