Quotes from Gary Chapman

An ancient sage once said, "A soft answer turns away anger." When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice.

The emotional need for love must be met if we are to have emotional health.

We needed love before we 'fell in love,' and we will need it the rest of our lives.

The emotional need for love must be met if we are to have emotional health. Married

Keith had realized that life's deepest meaning is not found in accomplishments but in relationships. He

Love as an attitude with appropriate behavior? Where are the shooting stars, the balloons, the deep emotions? What about the spirit of anticipation, the twinkle of the eye, the electricity of a kiss, the excitement of sex? What about the emotional security of knowing that I am number one in his/her mind?

Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory. —Romans 15:7

love is always a choice. That's what makes it meaningful.

The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It is a fact, however, that when we receive affirming words we are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate and do something our spouse desires.

The essential ingredients in a quality activity are: (1) at least one of you wants to do it, (2) the other is willing to do it, (3) both of you know why you are doing it—to express love by being together.

Mark Twain once said, "I can live for two months on a good compliment." If

the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated. Words of

A willingness to examine and change stereotypes is necessary in order to express love more effectively. Remember, there are no rewards for maintaining stereotypes, but there are tremendous benefits to meeting the emotional needs of your spouse.

If her primary love language is quality time and her dialect is quality conversation, her emotional love tank will never be filled until he tells her his thoughts and feelings.

When your spouse's emotional love tank is full and he feels secure in your love, the whole world looks bright and your spouse will move out to reach his highest potential in life. But when the love tank is empty and he feels used but not loved, the whole world looks dark and he will likely never reach his potential for good in the world. In

The key is to learn the primary love language of your spouse and choose to speak it.

Now I realize that she didn't want advice when she told me about her struggles at work. She wanted sympathy. She wanted me to listen, to give her attention, to let her know that I could understand the hurt, the stress, the pressure. She wanted to know that I loved her and that I was with her. She didn't want advice; she just wanted to know that I understood.

Having said all of that, let me suggest that you spend some time writing down what you think is your primary love language. Then list the other four in order of importance. Also write down what you think is the primary love language of your spouse. You may also list the other four in order of importance if you wish. Sit down with your spouse and discuss what you guessed to be his/her primary love language. Then tell each other what you consider to be your own primary love language.

Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement

Show me your unfailing love in wonderful ways. —Psalm 17:7

Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not t hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.

Forgiveness is an expression of love.

primary love language was words of affirmation. He was a hard worker, and he enjoyed his work, but what he wanted most from his wife was expressions of appreciation for his work. That

And those who don't divorce, do they learn to live with the emptiness, or does love really stay alive in some marriages? If so, how?