Quotes from Gary Chapman

Some husbands and wives think they are spending time together when, in reality, they are only living in close proximity. They are in the same house at the same time, but they are not together. A wife who is texting while her husband tries to talk to her is not giving him quality time, because he does not have her full attention.

If a man owns a hundred sheep, and one of them wanders away, will he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go to look for the one that wandered off? —Matthew 18:12 niv

When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice. You will receive what he is saying as information about his emotional feelings. You will let him tell you of his hurt, anger, and perception of events. You will seek to put yourself in his shoes and see the event through his eyes and then express softly and kindly your understanding of why he feels that way.

You are the gatekeeper of your child's mental diet.

The statement "I love you," when said with kindness and tenderness, can be a genuine expression of love. But what about "I love you?" The question mark changes the whole meaning of those three words.

Meeting my wife's need for love is a choice I make each day.

Giving verbal compliments is only one way to express words of affirmation to your spouse. Another dialect is encouraging words. The word encourage means "to inspire courage." All of us have areas in which we feel insecure. We lack courage, and that lack of courage often hinders us from accomplishing the positive things that we would like to do. The latent potential within your spouse in his or her areas of insecurity may await your encouraging words.

My parents may have given me negative or mixed messages about my worth, but my spouse knows me as an adult and loves me. Her love builds my self-esteem. The

I liked the metaphor the first time I heard it: "Inside every child is an 'emotional tank' waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty 'love tank.'" I was listening to Dr. Ross Campbell, a psychiatrist who specialized in the treatment of children and adolescents.

When you take your place as the authority figure in your home, your child will feel more safe in the real world, not the screen world.

most difficult of all, regardless of how she acts. This does not mean that we like all of her behavior. It does mean that we give and show love to our child all the time, even when her behavior is poor.

Anger" is one letter short of "danger." AUTHOR UNKNOWN

choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.

Inside every child is an 'emotional tank' waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty 'love tank.'" I was listening to Dr. Ross Campbell, a psychiatrist who specialized in the treatment of children and adolescents.

Babies who are held, stroked, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.

But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you…. Do to others as you would have them do to you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them.3

We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve.

Los ingredientes esenciales en una actividad de calidad son: (1) que al menos uno de los dos quiera hacerlo, (2) el otro esté dispuesto a hacerlo, y (3) ambos sepan por qué lo hacen: expresarse amor al estar juntos.

God knows just when we need a friend. — Dawn Lilly —

Anger, then, is the emotion that arises whenever we encounter what we perceive to be wrong. The emotional, physiological, and cognitive dimensions of anger leap to the front burner of our experience when we encounter injustice.

Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures. None of us is perfect.

With empty love tanks, couples tend to argue and withdraw, and some may tend to be violent verbally or physically in their arguments. But when the love tank is full, we create a climate of friendliness, a climate that seeks to understand, that is willing to allow differences and to negotiate problems. I am convinced that no single area of marriage affects the rest of marriage as much as meeting the emotional need for love.

Learning to listen may be as difficult as learning a foreign language, but learn we must, if we want to communicate love. That

When you're through changing, you're through." Bruce Barton