Quotes from Daniel J. Siegel

Implicit recollections without explicit processing may be the source of the experience of flashbacks in the extreme case; more commonly it may serve as the origin of rigid implicit mental models that block a parent's ability to remain flexible and attuned to a child.

Studies using meditative interventions had found that training the mind in these ways of focused attention, open awareness, and kind intention could have many benefits, among them not only the reduction of the subjective experience of pain but also an objective diminishment of the representation of pain within the brain.

Nadie puede ejercer la paternidad sin cometer errores.

Without such refined awareness on our part, we may project a feeling of impending chaos or rigidity onto our clients, inappropriately try to move them to their safe place in an attempt to keep them in the window, and directly give them the sense that they, too, are unable to tolerate whatever feeling or memory is emerging at the time. This

merely assigning a name or label to what we feel literally calms down the activity of the emotional circuitry in the right hemisphere.

Cuanto más ancha sea su ventana de tolerancia a las dificultades y a las emociones desagradables, más resilientes serán frente a la adversidad, en lugar de desmoronarse si las cosas no salen como es debido.

resiliencia consiste también en saber recuperarse, en pasar rápidamente de la zona roja o de la azul a la verde: en abandonar el caos o la inflexibilidad para recuperar la armonía dentro de la ventana de tolerancia.

be that excessive stress and hormonal secretion during a trauma directly impair the functioning of parts of the brain necessary for autobiographical memories to be stored. After the trauma, recollection of those details encoded in only nonverbal form will likely evoke distressful emotions that can be deeply disturbing.

mindsight permite que seamos conscientes de nuestros procesos mentales sin vernos arrastrados por ellos; que nos liberemos del automatismo de las conductas arraigadas y de las respuestas rutinarias, y que rompamos los ciclos emocionales reactivos en los que tendemos a quedarnos atrapados.

How intention glows determines where attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural and interpersonal connection grow.

Pero recuerda, el comportamiento es comunicación. Y un comportamiento problemático es, en realidad, un mensaje de nuestros hijos: «Necesito ayuda para desarrollar mi capacidad en este aspecto concreto. Todavía soy incapaz de hacerlo bien.»

Let's begin with the actual goal of discipline. When your child misbehaves, what do you want to accomplish? Are

at these moments, logic isn't our primary vehicle for bringing some sort of

La serenidad no implica estar siempre calmado: implica haber aprendido a manejar las olas de las emociones con habilidad y agilidad.

Sadly, many of us learn to be wary of others, and even of our own inner life, and the resulting prison of our own mental adaptations to survive creates a belief that we are helpless to make a change.

passive victim stance and for others may be an active angrily fighting back state.

What Teresa needed was to shift from being reactive to becoming receptive

familiar knowns of fighting, fleeing, freezing, and even fainting,

Your left brain loves and desires order. It is logical, literal, linguistic (it likes words), and linear (it puts things in a sequence or order). The left brain loves that all four of these words begin with the letter L. (It also loves lists.)

each of us have tendencies derived from both our temperament and our accumulated experiences, we may also have a set of proclivities in how we live in the world as well. This

By giving your children repeated experiences that develop the whole brain, you will face fewer everyday parenting crises. But more than that, understanding integration will let you know your child more deeply, respond more effectively to difficult situations, and intentionally build a foundation for a lifetime of love and happiness.

naming an affect soothes limbic firing. Sometimes we need to "name it to tame it." We can use the left language centers to calm the excessively firing right emotional areas.

Even in our busy, driven, and often isolated lives, we can remember this fundamental reality, that we're all interdependent and connected with one another.

develop the ability to live with balance, to face adversity with resilience, to