Quotes from John Gray

when man and women are able to respect and accept there differences the love has a chance to blossom

I would love you all the day, every night we would kiss and play, if with me you'd fondly stray, over the hills and far away.

always thought of myself as a loving person. But she was right. I had been a fair-weather friend. As long as she was happy and nice, I loved back. But if she was unhappy or upset, I would feel blamed and then argue or distance myself

Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do.

When misunderstandings arise, remember that we speak different languages; take the time necessary to translate what your partner really means or wants to say. This definitely takes practice, but it is well worth it.

Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.

It is very difficult for a man to differentiate between empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied.

Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship.

When she says "I feel like you are not even here," he says "What do you mean I'm not here? Of course I am here. Don't you see my body?

Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently.

Salah satu hal ajaib mengenai kehidupan. Saat muridnya siap, sang guru muncul. Saat pertanyaan diajukan, jawabannya datang. Saat kita benar-benar siap menerima, apa yang kita butuhkan akan tersedia. Ketika penduduk Venus siap menerima, orang-orang Mars siap memberi. (dikutip dari buku: Pria dari Mars, Wanita dari Venus)

The destruction of the natural world is not the result of global capitalism, industrialisation, 'Western civilisation' or any flaw in human institutions. It is a consequence of the evolutionary success of an exceptionally rapacious primate. Throughout all of history and prehistory, human advance has coincided with ecological devastation.

Men go to their caves .. Women talk

Too much intimacy, too quickly, can cause women to become needy and men to pull away. Just as men have a tendency to rush into physical intimacy, women make the mistake of rushing into complete emotional intimacy.

The good life is not found in dreams of progress,but in coping with tragic contingencies.We have been reared on religions and philosophies that deny the experience of tragedy.Can we imagine a life that is not founded on the consolations of action?Or are we too lax and coarse even to dream of living without them?

Quite often, when one partner makes a positive change the other will also change. This predictable coincidence is one of those magical things about life.

When the student is ready the teacher appears. When the question is asked then the answer is heard. When we are truly ready to receive then what we need will become available.

The fate of the Right in the late modern age is to destroy what remains of the past in a vain attempt to recover it.

Like their Martian ancestors, men pride themselves on being experts, especially when it comes to fixing mechanical things, getting places, or solving problems. These are the times when he needs her loving acceptance the most and not her advice or criticism.

He has no idea that by just listening with empathy and interest he can be supportive. He does not know that on Venus talking about problems is not an invitation to offer a solution. LIFE

A man commonly makes the mistake of thinking that once he has met all of a woman's primary love needs, and she feels happy and secure, that she should know from then on that she is loved. This is not the case. To fulfill her sixth primary love need he must remember to reassure her again and again.

Learning from mistakes helps prevent the repetition of negative patterns.

Although feelings of attraction are automatic, in order to sustain attraction in a personal relationship we must also be skillful in presenting ourselves in ways that are not just appealing to the other sex but supportive as well. It is not enough to say, "Here I am; take me as I am.

To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic license and use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations. Men mistakenly take these expressions literally. Because they misunderstand the intended meaning, they commonly react in an unsupportive manner.