Quotes from Elaine N. Aron

Some of us get caught up in demands from others. These may be real responsibilities or may be the common ideas of what makes for success—money, prestige, security. Then there are the pressures others can bring to bear on us because we are so unwilling to displease anyone.

By adolescence your family had taught you a great deal about how you can and should behave in the real world.

in the first two years the child adapts an overall strategy or mental representation of the world which can be quite enduring.

Or as one friend of mine put it, 'In the first twenty years we are given our curriculum. In the next twenty we study it.

BOUNDARIES The extreme nature of everything I've experienced as a mother has also taught me the need for boundaries. I have learned to value my own limited energy and resources, and so I will ask my children to help me around the house. If they choose not to help, they will lose some valued object or activity.

many HSPs have Seasonal Affective Disorder. This does not mean every HSP; it is just a bit more common in us.

Whatever happened, nothing and no one can take you from your private love, faith, creative thinking, mental practice, or spiritual existence.

One solution to all of this is not to insist that your gifts all be expressed at work. Express yourself through private projects and art, schemes for future or parallel self-employment, and through life itself.

Today many of us are artists and poets rather than prophets and seers, producing a kind of art that von Franz says "is generally only understood by later generations, as a representation of what was going on in the collective unconscious at that time.

It will be implied that this goal is "normal", but it may really be the goal of being like them or like the majority of people, ignoring differences in temperament. A good cognitive-behavioral therapist, however, will be attuned to individual differences...

In our culture, however, possessing this trait is not considered ideal and that fact probably has had a major impact on you. Well-meaning parents and teachers probably tried to help you "overcome" it, as if it were a defect. Other children were not always as nice about it. As an adult, it has probably been harder to find the right career and relationships and generally to feel self-worth and self-confidence.