Quotes About Emotions

parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls for firm boundaries and a clear discussion about appropriate and inappropriate behavior.

Los cambios cerebrales que se dan durante los primeros años de la juventud establecen durante la adolescencia cuatro cualidades en nuestra mente: búsqueda de novedades, implicación social, aumento de la intensidad emocional y experimentación creativa.

Benefit #1: Connection Moves a Child from Reactivity to Receptivity

So when children feel furious, dejected, ashamed, embarrassed, overwhelmed, or out of control in any other way, that's when we need to be there for them. Through connection, we can soothe their internal storm, help them calm down, and assist them in making better decisions

Knowing that our kids live with and through whatever we're experiencing is a powerful insight that can motivate us to begin and continue our journey toward understanding our own stories, the joys as well as the pain.

like sound decision making, control of their emotions and bodies, empathy, self-understanding, and morality—are dependent on a part of their brain that hasn't fully developed yet. Since

del cerebro, sabemos que el hijo de Tina experimentaba grandes oleadas de emociones del cerebro derecho sin el equilibrio lógico proporcionado por el cerebro izquierdo. En un momento así, una de las respuestas menos eficaces que podía dar Tina era ponerse directamente a la defensiva («¡Claro que te hago cosas bonitas!») o

Sin embargo, queremos enseñarles que la empatía consiste poco en dar consejos ni en encontrar el lado afirmativo de las cosas. Consiste más en escuchar, hacer compañía y compartir los sentimientos. Queremos enseñarles frases como: «Eso duele mucho» o «No sé qué decir, pero siento que haya pasado eso».

fin y al cabo, el cerebro izquierdo lógico del niño estaba en ese momento totalmente inactivo. Por consiguiente, si Tina hubiese respondido con el izquierdo, su hijo habría sentido que ella no lo entendía o que no le importaba lo que sentía. Se hallaba inmerso en un aluvión emocional, no racional, del cerebro derecho, y una

equanimity is the ability to achieve emotional equilibrium, to have a full range of emotions and attain a sense of balance within that rich inner and interpersonal life that both creates and embraces who we are and who we can become.

connection offers the short-term benefit of moving kids from reactivity to receptivity, and the long-term benefit of building the brain.

Hay unos ojitos que están observándote para ver cómo te tranquilizas tú. Tus acciones establecerán el ejemplo de cómo se toma una buena decisión en un momento de emociones intensas en el que tú mismo corres el peligro de perder los papeles.

even small children—as young as four or five—really can understand some important basics about the way the brain works, and in turn understand themselves and their behavior and feelings in new and more insightful ways.

One strategy that can be effective is to help the child create a "calm zone" with toys or books or a favorite stuffed animal, which she visits when she needs the time and place to calm down.

When we help our children name their pain and their fears, we help them tame them.

Kids who approach the world from a No Brain state are at the mercy of their circumstances and their feelings. They get stuck in their emotions, unable to shift them, and they complain about their realities rather than finding healthy ways to respond to them. They worry, often obsessively, about facing something new or making a mistake, rather than making decisions in a Yes Brain spirit of openness and curiosity. Stubbornness often rules the day in a No Brain state.

Mindfulness exercises produce literal changes in the brain's connections, significantly affecting how well a person interacts with other people and adapts to difficult situations.

when a child is upset, logic often won't work until we have responded to the right brain's emotional needs. We call this emotional connection "attunement," which is how we connect deeply with another person and allow them to "feel felt." When parent and child are tuned in to each other, they experience a sense of joining together.

Y cuando un padre o una madre está alterado, es muy difícil que un niño esté tranquilo y feliz.

Explained most simply, mindsight is the ability to see our own mind, as well as the mind of another. It allows us to develop meaningful relationships while also maintaining a healthy and independent sense of self. When we ask our children to consider their own feelings (using personal insight) while also imagining how someone else might experience a particular situation (using empathy), we are helping them develop mindsight.

La objetividad impide que nos veamos arrastrados por nuestros pensamientos y sentimientos. Utiliza la capacidad de la mente para ser consciente de que sus actividades presentes, como los pensamientos, sentimientos, recuerdos, creencias e intenciones, son pasajeras y no forman la totalidad de quienes somos.

It's easy to see when our kids aren't integrated—they become overwhelmed by their emotions, confused and chaotic. They can't respond calmly and capably to the situation at hand. Tantrums, meltdowns, aggression, and most of the other challenging experiences of parenting—and life—are a result of a loss of integration, also known as dis-integration.

If his mother hadn't helped him tell and understand the story, Marco's fears would have been left unresolved and could have surfaced in other ways.

the behaviors and skills we want and expect our kids to demonstrate, like sound decision making, control of their emotions and bodies, empathy, self-understanding, and morality—are dependent on a part of their brain that hasn't fully developed yet.