Quotes About Coping

It took her longer to find out that Oscar Sierra was absorbing every scrap of information from his environment, then running it through some mental algorithm that helped him figure out how to survive in hostile, unloving territory.

If you haven't been in a war and are wondering how long it takes to get used to losing everything you think you need or love, I can tell you the answer is no time at all.

This seems like one of the hardest things about being sick in the way you're sick: being sick makes you stressed. But being stressed makes you sicker.

put it bluntly, Prince Ben, this blows," said Genie, who

I don't know. I live day to day, waiting for the next terrible thing to happen.

I learned a long time ago that tears don't save lives. All they do is blur your vision.

Denial is a strong temptation as well.

There is nothing that makes the unbearable bearable.

Denial can be confusing because it resembles sleeping. We're not really aware we're doing it until we're done doing it. Forcing ourselves—or anyone else—to face the truth usually doesn't help. We won't face the facts until we are ready. Neither, it seems, will anyone else. We may admit to the truth for a moment, but we won't let ourselves know what we know until we feel safe, secure, and prepared enough to deal and cope with it.

I feel numb. Or I cry. Or I sit and stare. I listen to the same songs over and over. I can't work," I tell the therapist. "I can't get on with my life." What's her advice? "If you feel sad, cry. If you feel numb, feel that. Ninety-five dollars, please." It's the best money I ever spent, but it takes time to understand.

Feeling hurt does not have to be so frightening. We do not have to work so hard to avoid it. While hurt feelings aren't as much fun as feeling happy, they are, still, just feelings.

It is understandable that we don't want to feel any more pain. Many of us have had more than our share. In fact, at some time in our life, we may have been overwhelmed, crushed, or stopped in our tracks by the amount of pain we felt. We may not have had the resources to cope with our pain or take care of ourselves.

Little storms of despair, hopelessness, or self-hatred may squall up out of nowhere in our lives. We can hunker down and protect ourselves even when the storm is inside us.

Sometimes, the things we do to protect ourselves turn on us and hurt us. They become self-destructive.

Troubles and feelings go wild when we try to keep them caged inside. Talk about your feelings. Take responsibility for them. Feel whatever feeling you have. Nobody made you feel. Someone might have helped you feel a particular way, but you did your feeling all by yourself. Deal with it. Then, tell yourself the truth about what happened!

When a codependent discontinued their relationship with a troubled person, the codependent frequently sought another troubled person and repeated the codependent behaviors with that new person. These behaviors, or coping mechanisms, seemed to prevail throughout the codependent's life—if they didn't change these behaviors.

Healthy are those who mourn," writes Donald L. Anderson, a minister and psychologist, in Better Than Blessed. "Only very recently have we begun to realize that to deny grief is to deny a natural human function and that such denial sometimes produces dire consequences," he continues.

Denial is the shock absorber for the soul. It is an instinctive and natural reaction to pain, loss and change. It protects us, It wards off the blows of the life until we can gather our other coping resources.

Muddling along ... is the great secret to life... You take the good and the bad and cope as they happen - Gallen in Intrigues

what the hell do I do about a broken lifebond? He shook his head, obviously at a loss. I can't tell you; I don't know. I don't Heal minds, I Heal bodies. And I don't know of anyone who Heals hearts.

Like I said, I know bullies. Deflect, deflect, make them think they got their way even when they didn't, but never actually give in to them. Become innocuous, not worth tormenting or thinking about.

There's your real heroes—the people who keep coping, keep trying, no matter how many blows Fate takes at them.

I learned to cope with my needs for attention by creating my own private personal rituals to make myself feel special.

In fact I was not alone in doing this. Almost everyone cried, but we all learned to hide it, and those who didn't were the ones who got bullied.