Quotes About Coping

How is it possible for me to be so miserable and embarrassed and humiliated and beaten an function still talk and smile and concentrate?

It is my deep belief that in talking about the past, in understanding the things that have happened to us we can heal and go forward. Some people believe that it is best to put the past behind you, to never speak about the events that have happened that have hurt or wounded us, and this is their way of coping —but coping is not healing. By confronting the past without shame we are free of its hold on us.

Much of what has been perceived by whites as an Amazonic trait in black women has been merely stoical acceptance of situations we have been powerless to change.

The presence of pain in our lives is not an indicator of dysfunction.

Ultimately, culture, secular and otherwise, is a collection of survival strategies. The things that look like decoration—poetry, novels, music, dancing—if you strip away all the layers, are mechanisms for coping, surviving, understanding.

Fake it till you make it, he reminds himself. This is how he's survived Army life so far.

You must learn to laugh, he once told me, or else you'll just weep yourself to death.

A incerteza, na presença de grandes esperanças e receios, é dolorosa, mas temos de suportá-la, se quisermos viver sem o apoio de confortadores contos de fadas (...). Ensinar a viver sem essa segurança e sem que se fique, não obstante, paralisado pela hesitação, é talvez a coisa principal que a filosofia, em nossa época, pode proporcionar àqueles que a estudam.

nobody owns grief

In fact, the absence of appropriate grief after loss may be an indicator of another kind of serious stronghold.

The best thing ever is when some guy in his 50s taps me on the shoulder and says, 'I just want to let you know I hate my job, I hate my wife, and I come home and I watch reruns of your show and it's the only half hour of the day when I laugh and I forget how miserable life is.'

When you've been bereaved, you expect other people to rescue you, but I'm afraid they can't - it's down to you.

I've had - after my mom passed away - like a lot of resentment, a lot of things that just happened after I lost my mom.

I'm not really one who goes telling people things. I'm quite a reserved character and I keep a lot of things to myself. That's my home life as well. I just try to deal with things and, rightly or wrongly, get on with it.

Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it's less good than the one you had before.

I think we build resilience to prepare for whatever adversity we'll face. And we all face some adversity - we're all living some form of Option B.

You try to shut the criticism out, but it's pretty hard to do. You see people on the street, friends, people that you know are in your corner, and they come and tell you how bad they feel, and that's not the kind of conversation you want. I don't want anyone to feel bad for me.

I just want to get through each day without the need to shut my eyes for 10 minutes.

I can safely say that losing my mum at the age of 12 and therefore shutting down all of my emotions for the last 20 years has had a quite serious effect on not only my personal life but also my work as well.

I cover my shyness by being exactly the opposite. You know, really loud and very Italian. I am an extremely insecure and fragile person, and only the people that really know me know that. But I push myself.

I'm very shy so I became very outgoing to protect my shyness.

In the beginning, when I first found out I had a disease that was incurable, emotionally I had to get used to the idea of being sick before I could think about making any other major decisions in my life.

I'd sit on a horse and forget I was even sick.

When you get sick and it's extended, you go through all these mental phases, and everyone handles them differently.