Quotes About Coping

In Katy's language, this chapter is about—when you can't or won't avert engaging with crazy completely—how to limit the frequency, duration, and intensity of the abuse you face and feel.

You have to play the cards life deals you. You can't change it and you can't run away from it.

Her abstinence from her recollections had been a matter of survival.

Death comes to us all; we can only choose how to face it when it comes.

As Kai Erikson has put it, traumatised people 'may be said to have experienced not only a) a changed sense of self and b) a changed way of relating to others but c) a changed world view altogether'. In that first

Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but of playing a poor hand well.

Harry's grades dropped noticeably. This wasn't the result of ostracism or intimidation—that did occur, but Harry was never beaten or physically bullied by his

Humans have various ways of coping with extended stress, and one is the anticipation of a better time. Here, as with retribution, there is often a kind of symmetry: the more intense the stress and the more hopeless the situation, the more fabulous the coming times that are anticipated.

You can be a really nasty, selfish little jerk when you're scared enough. I was scared enough.

Dogs are very comforting when your world has exploded.

Post-traumatic shock, phooey. Seemed to me the trauma was trotting right along with me, like a dog on a leash with its owner. I was the dog. I

I thought, I have been so tired, these last two months. I have got used to that too. I have told myself it is just part of—having had what happened, happen. You do not get over something like that quickly. I had told myself that was all it was. I had almost believed it. I had believed it.

Todos necesitamos negar lo que nos resulta demasiado doloroso o amenazador para aceptarlo. La negación es un medio natural de autoprotección, que obra en forma automática y espontánea.

difficult feelings that you don't find a healthy way to remove become repressed, which creates stress, poor productivity and even disease.

You need to feel a wound to heal a hurt

We laugh, that we may not cry.

Depression comes when, in the depths of despair, I cannot manage to save myself by my attachment to writing.

but she was now better equipped to withstand his loss than she had been a few years earlier.

can do something about crime. Not a lot, I admit, but something. Because crime, all crime, is irrational. It is opposed to the logic of life, and so it is evil. And that is why I became a cop.

She said, "You say no one ever is sure what to expect. On either side. Which is a good thing. It means the game goes to the fastest thinker. That's all I need to be." "Correct," I said. "Weird things are going to happen, and things are going to change, and the ground is going to move under our feet, but if we keep on thinking fast, we'll be OK.

desperate. How could fiction help? Which it had to

Something we used to say in the MPs. Everyone has a plan till they get punched in the mouth.

Everyone has a plan till they get punched in the mouth.

It takes a lot of energy just to deal with life when you are neurotic and obsessive-compulsive.