Quotes About Coping

REBT's Insight No. 1 holds that you have both healthy and unhealthy emotions

You create both healthy and unhealthy feelings when your goals and desires are blocked.

people often want to remain angry. This represents a very important difference between anger and other troublesome emotions.

You got rid of them. Yes, that's just like you. Getting rid of everything unpleasant instead of learning to put up with it. Whether 'tis better in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, or to take arms against a sea of troubles and by opposing end them… But you don't do either. Neither suffer nor oppose. You just abolish the slings and arrows. It's too easy.

Librarse de todo lo desagradable en lugar de aprender a soportarlo. Si es más noble soportar en el alma las pedradas o las flechas de la mala fortuna, o bien alzarse en armas contra un piélago de pesares y acabar con ellos enfrentándose a los mismos... Pero ustedes no hacen ni una cosa ni otra. Ni soportan ni resisten. Se limitan a abolir las pedradas y las flechas. Es demasiado fácil.

Getting rid of everything unpleasant instead of learning to put up with it. Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, or to take arms against a sea of troubles and by opposing end them … But you don't do either. Neither suffer nor oppose. You just abolish the slings and arrows. It's too easy.

The Victrola, the Movies, a lecture: such are the three American alternatives to Silence, Scandal and Squabble. Or else, get drunk. America knows no other devices to enable its inhabitants to endure either their own company or that of their fellow-creatures.

la vendetta] è il solo farmaco che ci sia contro il dolore, tutto quello che si è trovato per non impazzire, è la droga con cui ci rendono capaci di combattere.

I'm fine. I have bad dreams but I never saw Mister Duck again. I play video games. I got my thousand-yard stare. I carry a lot of scars. I like the way that sounds. I carry a lot of scars.

She was not sure if she would want him to have known; we do not always wish for those for whom we long to know that we long for them, especially if the longing is impossible, or inappropriate. . . to be loved by the unlovable was not something that most people could cope with.

None of us knows how we will cope with snakes until the moment arises, and then most of us find out that we do not do it very well.

None of us knows how we will cope with snakes until the moment arises, and then most of us find out that we do not do it very well. Snakes were one of the tests which life sent for us, and there was no telling how we might respond until the moment arrived. Snakes and men. These were the things sent to try women, and the outcome was not always what we might want it to be.

each of us needed to find just the right way to take our mind off our problems, and it did not matter what that was--a drive in the country, an expedition to a shoe shop, a quiet cup of tea under a cloudless sky; each of us had something that made it easier to continue in a world that sometimes, just sometimes, was not as we might wish it to be.

When there is nothing you can do to stop the march of adverse events, then the best thing, she felt, was to get on with life and not to worry.

Anger, Obed Ramotswe had explained to her once, is no more than a salt that we rub into our wounds.

Tea, thought Mma Ramotswe—no matter what was happening, no matter how difficult things became, there was always the tea break—that still moment, that unchangeable ritual, that survived everything, made normal the abnormal, renewed one's ability to cope with whatever the world laid before one. Tea.

We cannot let wicked people spoil our lives for us, can we?

there were occasions on which talking about distressing things merely kept those things alive, whereas not talking about them, consigning them to the past, forgetting them, allowed one to think about things that were positive, things that made the world a bit better.

And that somehow made it easier for both of them; and so she had decided that even if there were no angels, we might still wish to believe in them because that made our life more bearable, and she was not ashamed to think like that.

These days people seemed to suggest that you should talk about everything, even those things that people never talked about in the past, but did this make life any easier? She was not sure. In fact, she thought there were occasions on which talking about distressing things merely kept those things alive, whereas not talking about them, consigning them to the past, forgetting them, allowed one to think about things that were positive, things that made the world a bit better.

how could anyone manage to negotiate their way through life's complexities without at least a smidgen of self deception here and there? Alexander Mccall Smith Precious and Grace.

Drinking was what you did when things were so overwhelmingly good you needed a hangover to tamp them down, or when things were so overwhelmingly bad you needed to forget.

Ah, said the jailer, do not always brood over what is impossible, or you will be mad in a fortnight.

I have turned to work again and again over the years as an antidote to the pains of life. Work is the best alleviator of sorrow I know, and once again, it is standing me in good stead. So I will work--and cry on my own time.