Quotes About Emotional intelligence

Denial of our emotions isn't the only danger we face when we rely too heavily on our left brain. We can also become too literal, leaving us without a sense of perspective, where we miss the meaning that comes from putting things in context (a specialty of the right brain). This is part of what causes your eight-year-old to become defensive and angry sometimes when you innocently joke around with her. Remember that the right brain is in charge of reading nonverbal cues.

Denial of our emotions isn't the only danger we face when we rely too heavily on our left brain. We can also become too literal, leaving us without a sense of perspective, where we miss the meaning that comes from putting things in context (a specialty of the right brain).

Los niños con apego seguro están más capacitados para regular sus emociones y tomar decisiones acertadas. Están más preparados para prever las consecuencias de las cosas, tener en cuenta las perspectivas de los demás y actuar de manera constructiva y beneficiosa, no perjudicial y destructiva. Naturalmente, eso facilita las cosas al niño y al progenitor, así como la relación entre ambos.

Sometimes we need to name it to tame it, to look head-on into the plateaus and peaks of life and loosen their rigid hold as we soften the peaks, broaden our plateaus and relax back into

My advice to students when I taught negotiations was that if you think the other side has made an outrageous proposal, you should not come back with an equally outrageous counteroffer, creating a gap that will be difficult to bridge in further negotiations. Instead you should make a scene, storm out or threaten to do so, and make it clear—to yourself as well as to the other side—that you will not continue the negotiation with that number on the table.

It's obvious, but perhaps worth saying, that happiness has virtually nothing to do with the state of your intellect.

The purpose of inquiring about people's parents isn't to join them in blaming, judging, or criticizing their parents. In fact, it's not about their parents at all. It's solely about understanding how their early experiences inform who they are as adults so that they can separate the past from the present (and not wear psychological clothing that no longer fits).

Sabe, em relação a esses idiotas, eu tenho uma ideia a respeito. E se as pessoas que estão te deixando louco não estiverem tentando te deixar louco? E se essas pessoas não forem idiotas, mas razoavelmente inteligentes, e só estão fazendo o melhor que podem num determinado dia?

They'll be there regardless, so you might as well welcome them because they hold important clues.

difference between a criticism and a complaint, how the former contains judgment while the latter contains a request.

Sometimes people can't identify their feelings because they were talked out of them as children.

Above all, I didn't want to fall into the trap that Buddhists call idiot compassion — an apt phrase, given John's worldview. In idiot compassion, you avoid rocking the boat to spare people's feelings, even though the boat needs rocking and your compassion ends up being more harmful than your honesty.

identifying his in-the-moment feelings, because feelings lead to behaviors. Once we know what we're feeling, we can make choices about where we want to go with them.

Before you speak, ask yourself, What is this going to feel like to the person I'm speaking to?

Talking can keep people in their heads and safely away from their emotions.

Happiness equals reality minus expectations. Apparently, you can make people happy by delivering bad news and then taking it back

was more to a guy than a handsome face, a chiseled body and a big penis. Having a great sense of humor and the ability to carry on a meaningful conversation definitely counted for a lot.

What's your conscience?" "It's a meeting place for the things your heart feels and the things your head knows.

The problem with having a sense of humor is often that people you use it on aren't in a very good mood.

of the diverse systems within our brains. Optimal sculpting of the prefrontal cortex through healthy early relationships allows us to think well of ourselves, trust others, regulate our emotions, maintain positive expectations, and utilize our intellectual and emotional intelligence in moment-to-moment problem solving. We can now add a corollary to Darwin's survival of the fittest: Those who are nurtured best survive best.

each of us is doing the very best we can at this very moment. If we knew better, if we had more understanding and awareness, then we would do it differently.

We need to understand that they were doing the best they could with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge they had at that time.

How hard it is for most of us to understand that THEY, whoever they are we need most to forgive, were also in pain. We need to understand that they were doing the best they could with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge they had at that time.

This thought produces a feeling, and you buy into the feeling. However, if you don't have the thought, you won't have the feeling. And thoughts can be changed. Change the thought, and the feeling must go.