Quotes About Perspective

todo puede ser ridículo o trágico según quién lo cuente y cómo se cuente

la insistencia de quien no puede ver más allá de dos o tres años en el concepto de 'para siempre

las personas desdichadas se empeñan en averiguar muchas veces la magnitud de su desdicha, o en indagar vidas ajenas para abstraerse de las suyas.

Soy joven, habría tiempo de sobra, dicen que se olvida hasta lo inolvidable, lo dicen las personas de más edad.)

No siempre reconocemos las historias de amor de los demás, ni siquiera cuando somos nosotros su objeto, su meta, su fin.

en todas las fases de la vida se admiten rebajas y desperfectos, se van dejando de lado exigencias: 'Está bien, esto no ha podido ser', se reconoce uno; 'pero todavía queda bastante, todavía compensa y es posible disimular, peor sería que no hubiera nada y se hubiera ido todo al traste'.

Uno va reduciendo sus ímpetus y sus expectativas, se va conformando con versiones deterioradas de lo que quiso alcanzar o creyó haber alcanzado, en todas las fases de la vida se admiten rebajas y desperfectos, se van dejando de lado exigencias: 'Está bien, esto no ha podido ser', se reconoce uno; 'pero todavía queda bastante, todavía compensa y es posible disimular, peor sería que no hubiera nada y se hubiera ido todo al traste'.

Lo pasábamos bien juntos, pese a las brumas y las humaredas en que vivíamos envueltos. Pese a mi visión tan reducida, pese a todo. Era como si asistiera a su vida con sólo un ojo, el otro tuerto.

Het is de verschrikkelijke kracht van het heden, dat het verleden meer veplettert naarmate het zich er verder van verwijdert, en het bovendien vervalst zonder dat het verleden zijn mond kan opendoen, protesteren, tegenspreken of iets weerleggen

People believe what they want to believe, and that's why it's only logical-and so easy-that everything should have its time to be believed

O mundo é na verdade tanto dos vivos e tão pouco dos mortos - se bem que permaneçam todos na terra e sejam muitos mais - que aqueles tendem a pensar que a morte de um ente querido é qualquer coisa que se passou com eles mais que com o defunto, com quem na verdade se passou.

uno quiere las cosas y a las personas según lo que tiene o no tiene

No one can experience everything first hand; in fact, no one can experience more than a few dozen things even through books and courses and other first-hand descriptions. We have to rely on other people's experiences in order to continue broadening our world - even if, once we have heard those other experiences, we want to go out and have our own, to test their descriptions in practice.

We tend to see math and science as a steady state of facts rather than as the accumulated knowledge of linear traditions. As Korzybski put it, we see further because we "stand on the shoulders"5 of the previous generation. The danger of such a position is that we can forget to put our own feet on the ground.

Because when we set out to try to change someone, we are more likely to argue with and attack their story and less likely to listen. This approach increases the likelihood that they will feel defensive rather than open to learning something new. They are more likely to change if they think we understand them and if they feel heard and respected. They are more likely to change if they feel free not to.

The Truth Assumption As we argue vociferously for our view, we often fail to question one crucial assumption upon which our whole stance in the conversation is built: I am right, you are wrong. This simple assumption causes endless grief.

As "shifters" we tend to see ourselves as innocent victims – when something goes wrong, it's always because of what someone else did. Others of us have the opposite tendency: we are all too aware of the negative consequences of our own actions. In the face of this, others' contributions seem insignificant. An "absorber" tends to feel responsible for everything.

Address the implications of the alternate view. Another thing Peter might say is, "Let's put aside for a minute the question of whether this complaint is true and instead ask what if it were true? What would it mean? What would be the implications for you?

The blame frame creates a difficult burden. You have to feel confident that others are at fault, and that you aren't, to feel justified in raising an issue.

That's Systems Insight Number Two: Each of us sees only part of the problem (the part the other person is contributing). Systems Insight Number One is this: Each of us is part of the problem. Maybe not to the same extent, but we're both involved, each affecting the other.

Sometimes people have honest disagreements, but even so, the most useful question is not "Who's right?" but "Now that we really understand each other, what's a good way to manage this problem?

There's an old story of two clerics arguing about how to do God's work. In the spirit of conciliation, one finally says to the other, "You and I see things differently, and that's okay. We don't need to agree. You can do God's work your way, and I'll do God's work His way.

Wherever you want to go, understanding – imagining yourself into the other person's story – has got to be your first step. Before you can figure out how to move forward, you need to understand where you are. The

As we argue vociferously for our view, we often fail to question one crucial assumption upon which our whole stance in the conversation is built: I am right, you are wrong. This simple assumption causes endless grief.