Quotes About Validation

Knowledge clinched or confirmed always feels like a coin falling into the right slot, a ball landing in a basket, a peg knocked into its proper hole.

Instead she was struck by the thought that she'd never felt worthy. That was the reason she was always rescuing the world. She was trying to earn her way into heaven. Barring that, she was trying to earn her way into happiness.

The experience of being understood, versus interpreted, is so compelling you can charge admission.

Here is where the modern cult of love enters: it is the main way in which we test ourselves for strength of feeling, and find ourselves deficient.

O objetivo dos retratos das famílias burguesas nos séculos XVIII e XIX era confirmar uma imagem ideal do modelo (proclamando o seu estatuto social e embelezando a sua aparência); em função deste propósito, é fácil compreender porque é que as pessoas não sentiam necessidade de ter mais do que um retrato. O que o registo fotográfico confirma é, mais modestamente, que a pessoa existe; por isso eles nunca são demais.

Because my wanting isn't strong—it fears risks, it demands approval…

I hated when people said I was talented. At this point I would have much preferred they told me that I sucked, that I should give it up, go back to school, find a new career.

she would never find happiness in trying to please others if she didn't honor her own gifts.

So much of a parent's identity was wrapped up in the child: love, pride, self-worth, validation. It was an unfair burden on a small human being, but every child bore it, the lofty, seemingly unreachable expectations of her parents.

Like most good looking women, she was never sure of her beauty, and had to keep checking on it, to make sure it was still there.

No one can expect approval from every other person in the world—even the young woman you were in London did not expect such a thing—but I believe all of us can expect those few who matter to us to see past our limitations

Deprive a child of parental approval, and they'll spend their lives trying to get it. And the sad, undeniable fact is that I spent most of my formative years just trying to get my parents' attention, let alone their approval. The more they withheld it, the greater my attempts to attain it.

The worst thing: to give yourself away in exchange for not enough love.

Stop determining your worth and value by what other people say. Be determined by what the Word of God (scriptures)says.

How many geniuses die undiscovered, not only by others but, more sadly, by themselves?

on the internet] "wearing sweatpants and a tee shirt, I found it easy and intensely gratifying to relish the compliments and heterosexual advances of men I surely would have avoided had I encountered them in person.

Everyone wanted his relatives to be proud of him, didn't he?

Society can only hurt if you care for its opinion

The stupidest people suddenly become a little cleverer when we learn that they think well of us

Denying the reality of my experience—that was the most harmful. Not being able to trust anyone was the most serious effect. . . . I know I acted in ways that were despicable. But I wasn't crazy. Some people go around acting like that because they feel hopeless. Finally I found a few people along the way who have been able to feel OK about me even though I had severe problems. Good therapists were those who really validated my experience.

In the face of common prejudices that blame survivors for whatever happened to them, they want assurances from the community that they did not deserve to be abused.

I know how tempting it is to believe that something outside—a great job, meeting Mr. or Ms. Right, winning the lottery— can make you feel okay and mollify envy. For a while these may seem to work, but an outer fix alone, no matter how gratifying, can't sustain self-esteem.

This time he laughed softly. "You are

In the silence of night I have often wished for just a few words of love from one man, rather than the applause of thousands of people.