Quotes About Validation

I think that so many people who have children seem to want other people to have children in order to make their choice feel more essential, more inevitable, and just more right.

So many people have gone through the experience of not feeling good enough.

It's overwhelming that so many people love what you do and appreciate and get it. It's very rewarding.

It feels completely amazing to finally be in the space where there are so many people taking me seriously as an actress.

My favorite part about writing a song is really when it's released, and I can see that it relates to so many people.

Looking back, I can't say I got any real satisfaction from so many people being interested in what I looked like.

I spent so many years with people saying, 'Hey, you're like America's boyfriend!'

I wrote for so many years in a bubble, the way everyone does, and there were large swaths of time where you think you're doing this for nothing. An audience is crucial, a back and forth with the invisible readers.

For so many years, I thought I wasn't good enough.

For so many years, women and people who aren't white have had to be undeniable to get into line-ups.

With music you spend so much time standing on stage in front of an audience you get a false sense of your own importance. It's worth keeping that in check.

That men prove their manhood in the eyes of other men is both a consequence of sexism and one of its chief props. "Women have, in men's minds, such a low place on the social ladder of this country that it's useless to define yourself in terms of a woman," noted playwright David Mamet. "What men need is men's approval." Women become a kind of currency that men use to improve their ranking on the masculine social scale.

I mean, how do you know if people are good for you or not? It's not like they come with an FDA approved sticker or anything.

Don't discuss yourself, for you are bound to lose; if you belittle yourself, you are believed; if you praise yourself, you are disbelieved.

I care not so much what I am in the opinion of others, as what I am in my own.

I see men ordinarily more eager to discover a reason for things than to find out whether the things are so.

He said my name. He knows what my name is. He spoke it out loud and used it in a sentence.

I don't give a damn about reviews. What I like to read are royalty checks.

The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough. Eventually we become someone that we are not. We become a copy of Mamma's beliefs, Daddy's beliefs, society's beliefs, and religion's beliefs.

We have learned to live by other people's points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

The freedom we are looking for is the freedom to be ourselves, to express ourselves. But if we look at our lives we will see that most of the time we do things just to please others, just to be accepted by others, rather than living our lives to please ourselves.

The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough. Eventually we become someone that we are not.

After domestication, we try to be good enough for everybody else, but we are no longer good enough for ourselves, because we can never live up to our image of perfection.

The freedom we are looking for is the freedom to be ourselves, to express ourselves. But if we look at our lives we will see that most of the time we do things just to please others, just to be accepted by others, rather than living our lives to please ourselves. That is what has happened to our freedom.