Quotes About Validation

We are so selfish that we want the person with whom we are sharing our life to be as needy as we are. We want "someone who needs me" in order to justify our existence, in order to feel that we have a reason to be alive. We think we are searching for love, but we are searching for "someone who needs me," someone we can control and manipulate.

But it will make a difference to you if you don't believe you are beautiful and someone tells you that. Then you are going to say, "Am I really?" This opinion can impress you, and, of course, that makes you easy prey. This opinion is what you think you need, because you believe you are not beautiful.

We try so hard to be important, to be a winner, to be powerful, to be rich, to be famous, to express our personal dream, and to impose our dream onto other people around us.

How many times have you hooked other people's attention, and spread poison about your loved one in order to make your opinion right?

We pretend to be what we are not because we are afraid of being rejected. The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough. Eventually we become someone that we are not. We become a copy of Mamma's beliefs, Daddy's beliefs, society's beliefs, and religion's beliefs.

It is not important if the answer is correct; just the answer itself makes us feel safe.

We have learned to live our lives trying to satisfy other people's demands.

Haces una montaña de un grano de arena porque sientes la necesidad de tener razón y de que los demás estén equivocados.

When we go into a relationship, we become selfish because we are needy. It's all about me. We are so selfish that we want the person with whom we are sharing our life to be as needy as we are. We want "someone who needs me" in order to justify our existence, in order to feel that we have a reason to be alive. We think we are searching for love, but we are searching for "someone who needs me," someone we can control and manipulate.

All your life you tried to be good enough for somebody else, and you left yourself last. You sacrificed your personal freedom to live according to somebody else's point of view. You tried to be good enough for your mother, your father, your teachers, your beloved, your children, your religion, and society. After trying for so many years, you try to be good enough for yourself, and you find out that you're not good enough for yourself.

And if you challenge your beliefs just by asking yourself if what you believe is true, you may find out something very interesting: All your life you tried to be good enough for somebody else, and you left yourself last. You sacrificed your personal freedom to live according to somebody else's point of view.

The only truth for you is what you perceive in your world. With this awareness, there's nothing to prove to anyone. It's not about being right or wrong. You respect whatever somebody says because it's another artist speaking. Respect is so important. When you learn to listen, you show respect for the other artists—you show respect for their art, for their creation.

Nos deshonramos a nosotros mismos sólo para complacer a otras personas. Incluso llegamos a dañar nuestro cuerpo para que los demás nos acepten.

Then one day someone hooks your attention and using the word, lets you know that you are not stupid. You believe what the person says and make a new agreement. As a result, you no longer feel or act stupid. A whole spell is broken, just by the power of the word.

Debido a ese miedo a ser castigados y a no recibir la recompensa, empezamos a fingir que éramos lo que no éramos, con el único fin de complacer a los demás, de ser lo bastante buenos para otras personas.

Everyone looks for someone to love them, even when they hate themselves. They wait for lightning to strike, for the phone to ring, for a knight to arrive in shining armor. When people are disappointed in love, they think they're unlovable. They feel deprived and always hungry. This hunger makes them desperate for any offer of love and attention, and susceptible to all forms of mistreatment. To encourage

But the problem is not that our partner rejects us. The problem is that we reject ourselves, because we are not good enough, because that is what we believe.

You make something big out of something so little, because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong. You also try hard to be right by giving them your own opinions.

With that fear of being punished and that fear of not getting the reward, we start pretending to be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else.

No ID, no person

You were right, said the Master impressed by the neatness of Korovyov's work, when you said: no documents, no person. So that means I don't exist since I don't have any documents.

Na lito??, przecie? to zaczyna by? Å›mieszne, koniec koÅ"ców! - nie poddawaÅ' siÄ™ Korowiow. - Pisarz jest pisarzem, poniewa? pisze, a bynajmniej nie dlatego, ?e ma legitymacjÄ™.

No documents, no person.

The pressure to make public retractions of past statements - there's something medieval about it. What does it mean, anyway, to 'retract' what you've said? How can anyone state categorically that a thought he once had is no longer valid? In modern times an idea can be refuted, yes, but not retracted.