Quotes About Validation

When you judge your art with number of likes you get in response to it, you're killing the artist within, and giving rise to an entertainer.

Always ask, 'Do you love me?' before saying, 'I love you.

most of us now lead lives on social media that are more performance based than we ever could have imagined even a decade ago, and thanks to this burgeoning cult of likability, in a sense, we've all become actors.

No negativity allowed: we're only asking to be admired in the display culture we were raised in.

Do we derive our identity, our worth, from our families or from ourselves? —REVEREND MOTHER RAQUELLA BERTO-ANIRUL, Sisterhood Training Manual

The key to dealing with this concern about what other people are thinking is to realize that no one is really thinking about you at all. Most

If you really knew how little others think about you, you would be insulted.

Las emociones negativas no pueden existir a menos que puedas explicarte a ti y a los demás por qué tienes derecho a sentirte como te sientes con respecto a cierta persona o situación

Sa nu faci niciodata ceva sau sa nu te abtii de la a întreprinde ceva din cauza ca esti preocup.at de ce ar putea crede oamenii despre tine. Adevarul este ca nimeni nu se gândeste la persoana ta.

The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.

What I've learned from talking to so many victims of traumatic events, abuse, or neglect is that after absorbing these painful experiences, the child begins to ache. A deep longing to feel needed, validated, and valued begins to take hold. As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what often follows is a complicated, frustrating pattern of self-sabotage, violence, promiscuity, or addiction.

Turning to Ann Gower, she smiled. "You're a good woman, Ann Gower." Ann Gower drew back and looked askance at Mary. "Don't you go ruinin' me reputation, Mary Abacus. I be a real bad woman, but a bloody good whore, and you knows it!

The reader is always right

She did not delude herself into expecting Francis to love her. He had never been taught how to love, but had an arresting way of looking pleased at Adah's achievements.

We all do emotional gymnastics to be seen as wonderful or funny—just to get what we already have. And because we're doing the gymnastics, we don't see that we already have it.

The irony is that the struggle to win love and approval makes it very difficult to experience them. Chronic

Your story is your identity, and you'd do almost anything to prove that it's true. Inquiry into self is the only thing that has the power to penetrate such ancient concepts. Even

What is an example that will prove that you aren't lovable? Rejection? If someone rejects you—and he could only do that because you don't match his beliefs about how he wants the world to be—it has nothing to do with you. Only an inflated ego could say that it had anything to do with you.

Have I become the girl who waits by the phone, hoping it will ring, who asks a friend to dial her number to make sure the phone is working?

Don't you think it's weird when someone has photographs of themselves all over the place? It's like they're trying to prove they exist.

Am I going to spend the rest of my life trying to get some kind of approval from him that he's never going to give?

Don't you ever get scared?" I ask. "Of what?" She says. "Of not being good enough." "You mean at writing?" L'il asks. I nod. "What if I'm the only one who thinks I can do it and no one else does? What if I'm fooling myself-" "Oh, Carrie." She smiles. "Don't you know that every writer feels that way? Fear is part of the job.

She longed to be seen, respected, and most of all, one day unconditionally loved (by one fully committed man) for the sum of all her many, many parts.

If I remember it, did it happen?