Quotes About Validation

To be loved is to be recognized as existing.

Oni idu tako daleko i vjeruju da ?ovjek nastaje tek onda kad primi svedodžbu ili stekne titulu, prije toga uop?e nije ?ovjek.

No ta pošast svjedodžaba i titula nije, dakako, izum ovog stolje?a, ljudi su uvijek težili za time. Budu?i da su sebe premalo cijenili, jednog su se dana ve? prije više stolje?a iskazivali svjedodžbom i titulom kako bi mogli sami pred sobom postojati.

If a parent has no other source of self-worth and self-esteem, which is unhappily true of many parents whose lives are limited to raising "good" children, the stage is set for a dependency on children that makes the parent overanxious and severely needful that the children behave in particular ways.

the longing need to be noticed that is often miscalled ego.

Can anything worse happen to those who are trying to look rich when they learn the truth? They buy expensive, so-called high-status beverages because they need to tell people they are superior. They want so badly to do what the glittering rich do with their money. But then their trash collector's revelation dampens their enthusiasm

The logic of worldly success rests on a fallacy: the strange error that our perfection depends on the thoughts and opinions and applause of other men!

The immature conscience is one that bases its judgments partly, or even entirely, on the way other people seem to be disposed toward its decisions. The good is what is admired or accepted by the people it lives with. The evil is what irritates or upsets them. Even

The logic of worldly success rests on a fallacy: the strange error that our perfection depends on the thoughts and opinions and applause of other men! A weird life it is, indeed, to be living always in somebody else's imagination, as if that were the only place in which one could at last become real!

Put it this way—everybody has to have somebody to make em look good, which just happens to be you in this case.

Suppose you are wrong? How would you know? How would you test for that possibility?

People will forgive you for being wrong, but they will never forgive you for being right—especially if events prove you right while proving them wrong.

In dysfunctional families, people overfocus on problems—even very small ones—without allowing any focus on the innumerable ways a child does things well. This is one of the primary causes of low self-esteem. A child can do ten, fifty, a hundred things right in a day, but an overly critical parent will pick out the one thing that doesn't go well, and harp on it over and over.

The discovery that some of the behaviors in your family that you thought and felt were wrong or abnormal actually were abnormal is tremendously freeing and validating, and helps you learn to trust yourself. Don't be afraid to ask if something seems normal to someone else. Even though dysfunctional family dynamics are usually well-hidden behind the closed doors of many families, almost everyone experiences them.

chronically overgiving as a way to try to prove her value.

It is the community that suffers when it refuses to validate any outside standards, and won't allow even the legitimate exercise of authority by the professionals it has hired.

When we're misunderstood and judged unfavorably, what good does it do to defend or explain ourselves?

The unhappiest & unsuccessful people in this world, are those who care the most about what other people think. - C. JoyBel

I don't care what people say about my relationship I don't care what they say about my boobs. People are buying my songs I have a sold-out tour. I'm getting incredible feedback from my music.

The needy child voice inside me said, If she says you're a nut, then you must be a nut. She's your mother, the one who always tells the brutal truth.

Some of the time it feels as if we're just here to bear witness to the acts of monsters. To validate their efforts by seeing what they've done.

There's something I've learned from years of reading people's letters. In most cases, they already have an answer to their problem. They're asking for advice because they want to see if other people think they're making the right decision. That's why a lot of people send me a response after reading my advice. Maybe they had a different solution in mind.

Setelah sekian lama membaca surat permintaan konsultasi, ada satu hal yang kupahami. Dalam berbagai kasus, sebenarnya si pengirim surat sudah menemukan jawabannya. Mereka berkonsultasi hanya demi memastikan bahwa orang lain juga membenarkan keputusan mereka.

As William James pointed out, "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.