Quotes About Validation

The only way to get people to do anything is to recognize their importance and thereby make them feel important. Every person's deepest lifelong desire is to be significant and to be recognized.

Some men think the sun comes up just to hear them crow.

Sometimes, of course, your loved ones genuinely think you would be wasting your time and talents doing something of which they disapprove.

But it also taught me that it is easier to overcome people's judgments than to overcome our own self-judgment, the fear we internalize.

The power of groups is that they validate the common interests of their members. The danger of groupthink is that it dulls their individual judgment. The group thinks in unison and behaves en masse.

A feeling is not a fact.

I thought that if I gave everything I had inside to the people I loved, I would perhaps be able to prove I wasn't a bad person. The truth was that I really wasn't a bad person. And I didn't need to dedicate my life to defining the kind of person that I was.

What people think about you is not supposed to matter much, so long as you yourself know where the truth lies; but I have found out, as have others who move in and out of newspaper headlines, that on occasion it can matter a good deal.

The unhappiest people in this world, are those who care the most about what other people think.

Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn't have the time to sit around and talk about you. What's important to me is not others' opinions of me, but what's important to me is my opinion of myself.

The very fact that we need to struggle for approval proves that we do not approve of ourselves. Having to convince ourselves of something means we do not really believe it. That is why we contort ourselves grotesquely, lose sight of who we really are, and tangle ourselves pathetically in a complicated falsification of our lives.

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A magányosság nem úgy jön létre, hogy senki nincs körülöttünk, hanem sokkal inkább azáltal, hogy senkivel nem lehet megbeszélni olyan dolgokat, amelyeket fontosnak érzünk, vagy hogy az ember érvényesnek tekint olyan gondolatokat, amelyeket a többiek valószín?tlennek tartanak.

Even a bad review is still a review. It means someone cared enough to take the time to say: Hey, this sucks. Don't bother. Buy a DVD instead...Yes, someone cared. And isn't that what every writer dreams of?...So, how did I deal with bad reviews? How else? I cry. I get mad. I pretend not to care. Then I pour myself a glass of wine and call a friend to complain.

Queria tanto que alguém me amasse por alguma coisa que eu escrevi.

If your specialty is new—as mine is—and they can't therefore find experts with an opinion on it either way, you're going to have a real hard time keeping your position, as there's no one out there to validate your stature.

I felt like I was stretching to convince the world that my work was interesting, yet no one cared.

There is a performative dimension to writing emails and cc'ing everybody, like 'Look at all the work I'm doing.' It's annoying

intermittent positive reinforcement and the drive for social approval.

Because, let's face it, checking "likes" is the new smoking.

Even old ideas require new investigation to underscore their continued relevance.

This study, it turns out, is one of many that validate attention restoration theory (ART), which claims that spending time in nature can improve your ability to concentrate.

Jordan had a name for the worries about what his friends are doing with their lives and whether his accomplishments compare favorably: "the cloud of external distractions.

You "like" my status update and I'll "like" yours. This agreement gives everyone a simulacrum of importance without requiring much effort in return.