Quotes About Validation

A lesson I learned from Bill, a lesson that perhaps should be obvious, though there's evidence that most other people don't know it, either, is that direct and sincere compliments are shockingly effective—that they feel wonderful. What in theory should sound saccharine or manipulative rarely does in practice, so long as you believe the other person really means it. And we crave praise not, I think, because most of us are egomaniacal. It's because we're human.

the things that made me most myself were a romantic turnoff, that no one would simultaneously value my intellect and find me attractive; I had wanted so badly to be wrong, and I'd struggled to find evidence that I was.

Did he, in a way he was unable to articulate, actually like my strong will? Or did he mistake me for a typical woman, was he game to be my boyfriend not because I was Hillary and distinctly myself but because I possessed the standard feminine qualities that a college-educated man in the late 1960s might wish for? Did he not understand that I was special?

now I wonder where I had gotten the idea that for you to participate in a gathering, the other people had to really, really want you to be there and that anything short of rabid enthusiasm on their part meant you'd be a nuisance.

Sure, I believed the worst of myself but - not really. I was always waiting to be proven wrong.

And I don't know if you've heard this, but there's something called the Danny Horst Rule. And the amazing thing is, I'm Danny Horst. Touché. Chuckles, you and Noah are the ones who decide if it matters. It doesn't seem like it matters to him so that just leaves you. When you put it like that, it almost makes me sound like a self-sabotaging asshat. I'm not going to say the rule doesn't exist, but it's like Santa Claus. It's only real if you believe in it.

Where had I gotten the idea that being a nuissance was that big a deal?

This meant that an object like Brillo Boxes was baptized as 'art' if accepted by museum and gallery directors and purchased by art collectors.

He felt […] as if he'd just gotten a letter, out of the blue, from somebody wise enough to know the truth, from everybody, or at least everybody who mattered. "Hello," the letter said. "Hello, Jeff Greene, I've been watching you and I like you and I want to know you better. This is just to say I'm glad you're alive in the world." The list of signatures, he thought, would include his own.

For God's sake, all of you, say spiteful things about me, then I shall know I mean something to you. Don't say surgaries, or I'm done.

If some people are so hungry for a feeling of importance that they actually go insane to get it, imagine what miracle you and I can achieve by giving people honest appreciation this side of insanity.

Flattery is telling the other person precisely what he thinks about himself.

If you tell me how you get your feeling of importance, I'll tell you what you are.

The person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness in another's keeping.

We nourish the bodies of our children and friends and employees, but how seldom do we nourish their self-esteem? We provide them with roast beef and potatoes to build energy, but we neglect to give them kind words of appreciation that would sing in their memories for years like the music of the morning stars.

John Dewey, as we have already noted, said that the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature; and William James said: "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.

Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

most of our so-called reasoning consists in finding arguments for going on believing as we already do.

Trate siempre de que la otra persona se sienta importante.

Tanto como anhelamos la aprobación, tememos la condena

Lincoln once began a letter saying: "Everybody likes a compliment." William James said: "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.

Jos teitä potkitaan ja arvostellaan, muistakaa, että niin tehdään usein siitä syystä, että potkija saa siitä tietynlaista tärkeyden tunnetta. Se merkitsee monesti, että saatte aikaan jotakin ja olette huomion arvoinen. Useat ihmiset saavat raakaa tyydytystä siitä, että loukkaavat niitä, jotka ovat sivistyneempiä kuin he tai menestyvät paremmin.

There is nothing I need so much as nourishment for my self-esteem.

we all crave appreciation and recognition, and will do almost anything to get it. But nobody wants insincerity. Nobody wants flattery. Let