Quotes About Validation

Are you busy proving your worth or living it? A critical distinction."

We all perform. It's what we do for each other all the time, deliberately or unintionally. It's a way of telling about ourselves in the hope of being recognized as what we'd like to be.--PERFORMANCE

Fear of Missing Out (FOMO), and it has been defined as "the uneasy and sometimes all-consuming feeling that you're missing out—that your peers are doing, in the know about or in possession of more or something better than you [are].

He needed me to do what sons do for their fathers: bear witness that they're substantial, that they're not hollow, not ringing absences. That they count for something when little else seems to.

The recognition that what we have seen is the rise of an insecure narcissism – particularly among young people – rather than a rise in genuine self?esteem now seems widely accepted.

There's no better way to build confidence in a theory than to believe it is not testable.

It hurt to think that a boy would not have him at his value of himself.

Enlightenment is a shared enterprise. It needs some other voice saying, You are not wrong. . . .

His words of thanks contain four of the top six releasers for producing action patterns in someone else: reciprocity, scarcity, validation, and appeal to commitment. He hides the evidence of his begging under another trick gleaned from Chapter 12: If you want a person to help you, convince them that they've already helped you beyond saying. People will work hard to protect their legacy.

had to realize that my own worries about what I did were valid and were important, but that they were not the whole story, that there must be a complementary way of looking at them, because other people did not see them as I did.2146 And I needed what they saw, and needed them." Certainly he found the more traditional alleviation of losing himself in work.

Our institutions and our expectations, including our churches, are almost entirely configured to encourage, support, reward, and validate the tasks of the first half of life.

Whatever you trust to validate you and secure you is your real god, and the Gospel is saying, "Will the real God please stand up?

Such utterly free and gratuitous love is the only love that validates, transforms, and changes us at the deepest levels of consciousness. It is what we all desire and what we were created for. Once you allow it for yourself, you will almost naturally become a conduit of the same for others.

The attraction of cynicism was that it so often put you in the right, as if being right led directly to happiness.

Say I told you so. They're the four most satisfying words in the English language. You could rupture something trying to keep them inside you.

I remember vividly wishing she wouldn't do that, that she'd let him arrange his thoughts and feelings the way he wanted. After all, how does one invalidate a powerful feeling? Not with logic, surely.

The more he thought about it, life's truest meanings were all childhood meanings, childhood understandings of how things worked, what they were. Do we ever know as deeply as we know in childhood? Does adult life amount to anything more than a futile attempt to invalidate the deepest truths we know about ourselves and our world?

Does adult life amount to anything more than a futile attempt to invalidate the deepest truths we know about ourselves and our world?

Like you have to constantly prove your worth. From the movies that you watch to the songs on your radio. Down to the magazines placed ever so neatly in the grocery house, you know the ones with the movie stars. Since they wouldn't make any money if you already loved who you are. See there is no profit in saying you're already perfect and beautiful too.

The message is that people are more likely to agree with you when they have already said something positive.

A writer who hasn't written anything worth-while is a most doubtful person.

I'm going to be so nervous tomorrow," Ashley confessed, linking her arm through Miranda's. "What if our whole class hates it?" "Then I'll say I told you so," Parker replied.

Not that my regularly scheduled life was so great, but it beat getting judged unworthy by twelve bearded guys named Erik.

She deserved at least one person who saw her and knew how good she was.