Quotes About Validation

Maybe. But we all need reassurance, don't we?' 'Of what? That we're normal?' 'Something like that. Not in every way. Just reassurance that our problems aren't because we're crazy or weak or stupid – that other people have the same difficulties.

It is a test of true theories not only to account for but to predict phenomena.

I hate careless flattery, the kind that exhausts you in your effort to believe it.

Money is the only substance which can keep a cold world from nicknaming a citizen 'Hey, you'

It turns out I was right. But nothing has come of it.

When a film is reviled, you open a film and people say "Oh, it's the stupidest thing, it's the worst movie." You think: oh, nobody's going to ever speak to you again. But, it doesn't happen. Nobody cares. You know, they read it and they say "Oh, they hated your film." You care, at the time. But they don't. Nobody else cares.

If Mother is so intent on paying me compliments, it might be because she doesn't really love me very much. In fact, the more she tells me how pretty I am, the uglier I feel. To be honest, I have never once thought of myself as pretty

Au diable la reconnaissance si elle est dispensée par des gens qui ne t'arrivent pas à la cheville.

You know what I can't understand? You have all these people telling you all the time how great you are, smart and funny and talented and all that, I mean endlessly, I've been telling you for years. So why don't you believe it?

You know what I can't understand? You have all these people telling you all the time how great you are, smart and funny and talented and all that...So why don't you believe it?

You know what I can't understand? You have all these people telling you all the time how great you are, smart and funny and talented and all that, I mean endlessly, I've been telling you for years. So why don't you believe it? why do you think people say that stuff, Em? Do you think it's a conspiracy, people secretly ganging up to be nice about you?

When they look at themselves they see nothing that was valued by their parents.

Don't complain, and don't explain." That is, don't complain about your emotionally impoverished history to your parents, because they will never validate your perspective of your childhood. Second, don't explain your quiet withdrawal from the family scene. Simply slip away as gracefully as possible and concentrate your efforts at developing relationships with people who support and embrace you.

Whatever people say you are, that is what you're not.

but our self with a small "s" actually enjoys an impoverished life and all the negativity that goes with it: feeling unworthy, being invalidated, judging others and ourselves, being inflated, always "winning" and being "right," grieving the past, fearing the future, nursing our wounds, craving assurance, and seeking love instead of giving it.

We are born with inalienable emotional needs for love, safety, acceptance, freedom, attention, validation of our feelings, and physical holding. Healthy identity is based on the fulfillment of these needs.

When you are given attention, your intuitions are treated as if they matter. You are taken seriously. You are given credit when it is due. Your feelings have such high value to those who love you that they are on the lookout for them. They even look for the feelings you are afraid to know and gently inquire whether you want to show them.

I tend to show everything I do to my family, to check they won't be offended.

When you have no voice, you don't exist

If Dulles could use a person, that person was somehow real for him. If not, that person didn't exist.

But being a child, he'd never been asked for his opinion.

What humans want most of all, is to be right. Even if we're being right about our own doom. If we believe there are monsters around the next corner ready to tear us apart, we would literally prefer to be right about the monsters, than to be shown to be wrong in the eyes of others and made to look foolish.

So you see, fear is just another manifestation of insecurity. What humans want most of all, is to be right. Even if we're being right about our own doom. If we believe there are monsters around the next corner ready to tear us apart, we would literally prefer to be right about the monsters, than to be shown to be wrong in the eyes of others and made to look foolish.

We fixed him just by telling him that he wasn't crazy, that the horrors he was seeing were real. He seemed oddly comforted by that. He was a lawyer.