Quotes About Validation

So, after awhile, you can only get so much happiness from a guy who's drunk come up and tell you you're great.

Your adult life was nothing more than an exercise in forgetting your childhood. Always angry because you didn't get the approval all children need.

Every work of art is a request for love and attention.

With selective hearing, these individuals will hold to the status quo and gravitate toward those who will tell them what they want to hear at the neglect of what they need to hear.

To live the first five years of your life feeling that you are valuable is a wonderful thing and, if you don't have it, then you spend the rest of your life trying to find it. I think my mother realised this and tried to compensate for my father's extreme preoccupation with himself.

I would drive home and see people wearing my No. 34 jersey and wonder why, because I didn't feel worthy of that. And all the time I just knew people were staring at me, talking about me everywhere I went.

We do what we do not to be known but for what we know to be known; the chase of fame is an absolute loss of aim.

She refused to call Fern by her name, and that made Big Ma right about Cecile.

Making sense is overrated. It's just confirming what people already think. Making new sense is more important.

Here's the thing: only the market can tell if your idea is good. Everything else is just opinion.

In short, remember that compliments are worthless and people's approval doesn't make your business better.

Not that I like having my direst preconceptions about humanity confirmed or anything. But I was right.

Everybody loves your life but you

all Nice Guys developed the same paradigm: "If I am good, then I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life.

Later, Elizabeth revealed to me (and several of her friends) how much safer she felt when I had my feelings. She was able to hear that I was upset about the car but that I didn't think she was bad, and I wasn't going to abandon her. The fact that I had such intensity about not letting her push me away actually made her feel secure and loved. As a result, she felt safe to stay connected to me and hear my feelings about the car.

By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one — including themselves.

The seeking of external validation is just one way in which Nice Guys frequently do the opposite of what works. By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one—including themselves.

will become whatever I believe a person wants me to be in order to be liked. With

You're an artist, Mel. You can't expect to be a success at the same time.' She was warming her white hands. I was not sure that I was an artist, but it was nice to be told.

The conformist is filled with the need for approval. He can never get enough. He runs from one person to another seeking compliments and endorsements for his behavior and actions. As a child, he turned to parents and teachers; when he started to work, to his boss and fellow workers; in marriage, he turned to his mate. He must always have someone around to pat him on the head and tell him he is doing a good job. This bolsters up his poor self-esteem.

In general, when we are unsure of ourselves, when the situation is unclear or ambiguous, when uncertainty reigns, we are most likely to look to and accept the actions of others as correct.

in deciding whether a possibility is correct, people typically look for hits rather than misses; for confirmations of the idea rather than for disconfirmations.

The principle of social proof says so: The greater the number of people who find any idea correct, the more the idea will be correct.

Once again we can see that social proof is most powerful for those who feel unfamiliar or unsure in a specific situation and who, consequently, must look outside of themselves for evidence of how best to behave there.