Quotes About Validation

But it comes down to this: in deciding whether a possibility is correct, people typically look for hits rather than misses;

It states that one means we use to determine what is correct is to find out what other people think is correct.

the principle of social proof. It states that one means we use to determine what is correct is to find out what other people think is correct.

All things being equal, you root for your own sex, your own culture, your own locality…and what you want to prove is that you are better than the other person. Whomever you root for represents you; and when he wins, you win.

Advertisers love to inform us when a product is the "fastest-growing" or "largest-selling" because they don't have to convince us directly that the product is good, they need only say that many others think so, which seems proof enough. The

In the realm of self-correction mechanisms, then, we can find another source of validation for a core tenet of pre-suasion: immediate, large-scale adjustments begin frequently with practices that do little more than redirect attention.69

Em condições normais, você torce por seu sexo, sua cultura, sua localidade [...] e o que você quer provar é que você é melhor do que a outra pessoa. Seja quem for a pessoa por quem você torce, ela representa você; e quando vence, você vence.

It is hard to resist a flatterer who gets it right.

A blogger is an average person who happens to have a need to count his friends every half hour.

Among the things that you, and you alone, are the absolute and final judge of is whether or not you are a success.

Inner beauty, too, needs occasionally to be told it is beautiful.

One learns to ignore criticism by first learning to ignore applause.

We are driven by repressed emotional energy. We live life in reaction to childhood emotional wounds. We keep trying to get the healthy attention and affection, the healthy love and nurturing, the being-enhancing validation and respect and affirmation, that we did not get as children.

Everyone in a codependent society has to have someone to look down upon in order to feel good about themselves.

A nightingale dies for shame if another bird sings better.

The sweetest sound to anyone's ears is the sounds of his own name.

No matter how elegant it is, no matter how readable and accessible, if it hath not tests, it be unclean. Dave

Without tests every change is a possible bug. No

Architecture is a hypothesis, that needs to be proven by implementation and measurement. —Tom Gilb

To be listened to is, generally speaking, a nearly unique experience for most people. It is enormously stimulating. It is small wonder that people who have been demanding all their lives to be heard so often fall speechless when confronted with one who gravely agrees to lend an ear. Man clamors for the freedom to express himself and for knowing that he counts. But once offered these conditions, he becomes frigthened.

It is not that hard to understand why most of us believe strongly in things that are palpably not true. We have a natural propensity to see causal connections where there are none and our beliefs are constantly reinforced by people we like and trust. For many people, one vivid and emotionally salient experience validated by a single neighbor or shopkeeper trumps a thousand randomized, double-blind, controlled scientific experiments.

People's need for validation and recognition, their need to feel important, is the best kind of weakness to exploit. First, it is almost universal; second, exploiting it is so very easy. All you have to do is find ways to make people feel better about their taste, their social standing, their intelligence.

Creating this feeling of validation is the golden key that will unlock people's defenses. And we cannot survive and thrive in this highly competitive world without possessing such a power. We must discover the power that we can possess by giving people the validation they crave and lowering their defenses. And the key to making this happen in a realistic and strategic manner is to fully understand a fundamental law of human nature.

If you want to make people with low self esteem feel better about themselves, praise has a superficial effect. Instead prod them into accomplishing something tangible, giving them a real experience. That will translate into a much deeper feeling of confidence.