Quotes from Iyanla Vanzant

If you're not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or know your biggest fears, then you aren't really ready to share yourself.

If you are a card-carrying human being, chances are that you share the same fear as all other humans: the fear of losing love, respect and connection to others. And if you are human, in order to avoid or prevent the pain, trauma and perceived devastation of the loss, you will do anything to avoid your greatest fear from being visited on you.

People say I've had a difficult time in life. I think I've had an exciting time in life.

I have learned the hard way to mind my business, without judging who people are and what they do. I am more troubled by the lack of space being provided for the truth to unfold. Humans cannot seem to wait for or honor the truth. Instead, we make it up based on who we believe people should or should not be.

I think most people think that a spiritual path or growing spiritually means that all of a sudden you'll be able to forecast the six lotto numbers and all your bills will be paid.

In 2002, my daughter was diagnosed with a rare form of colon cancer. And it was such a shock, a surprise to us.

Religion is the rules, regulations, ceremonies and rituals developed by man to create conformity and uniformity in the approach to God. Spirituality is God's call in your soul.

A man who is not accountable to anyone is a danger to himself

Parents are teachers, guides, leaders, protectors and providers for their children.

There are going to be moments today you don't like me. You'll get over it.

A man can't be in the space where there is feminine rage and bitterness. He doesn't know how to navigate it.

This is probably one of the most difficult challenges any parent could face - learning to love the other parent enough to make the children first.

You never put her in your heart.

Love is not all that is required in a relationship. It needs understanding, openness, kidness, patience, long-suffering

I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.

If you want to be at peace, you have to be clear about your intetion and - moment by moment - in alignment with your intention

Until you make peace with your difficult memories, that pain will continue to bleed into your current and future experiences.

Comparison is an act of violence against the self.

We set the standard of how we want to be treated. Our relationships are reflections of the relationships we have with ourselves.

When your life is working there will be an absence of drama

Till your mental soil with determination. Fertilize your emotional soil with positive words. And plant the seed of your heart's desire with your disciplined efforts.

You know why the road curves as you're driving along? It curves because if God showed us the distance from where we are to where we're going, we'd think it was too far.

Everything God does is purposeful. And since God is in each of us, each of us has a purpose.

When we pray, it opens our minds to the divine consciousness of God. Prayer opens your mind to answers that have always been present.