Quotes from Daniel J. Siegel

We are not meant to live in isolation, but are dependent on one another for emotional well-being.

neuroplasticidad y la teoría del apego, deseamos subrayar una máxima inspiradora: la historia no determina el destino.

Why-what-how questions give us a new way of moving from reactive parenting to receptive and intentional Whole-Brain parenting strategies.

As a result, she stubbornly refuses to acknowledge that someone else might be just as talented. You can guide her back into the flow of well-being so that she can achieve better balance within herself and move into a more integrated state.

We don't want our children to hurt. But we also want them to do more than simply get through their difficult times; we want them to face their troubles and grow from them. When Amanda retreated to the left, hiding from all of the painful emotions that were running through her right brain, she denied an important part of herself that she needed to acknowledge.

Instead, by telling the story with Marco, Marianna helped focus his attention both on the actual details of the accident and on his emotions, which allowed him to use both the left and right sides of his brain together, literally strengthening their connection.

Podemos comprender nuestro pasado, y si lo comprendemos, no regirá nuestro presente y nuestro futuro.

Granted, you won't always have time to think through the three questions.

their parents. Abuse is incompatible

O si tu hijo no se cansa del expositor de Thomas la Locomotora en la tienda de juguetes y no está dispuesto a soltar el muñeco para poder marcharos, puedes proponerle un «sí» condicional. Prueba con algo así: «¡Ya sé! Llevamos a Thomas a la dependienta de allí y le explicamos que quieres que te lo guarde en un lugar seguro hasta que regresemos el martes para el cuentacuentos.»

Recapitulando, consiste en lo siguiente: la meta última de la labor de los padres es el apego seguro de nuestros hijos. Eso se logra mediante la presencia y la creación de las cuatro condiciones. Para eso es necesario que encontremos el sentido de nuestras propias narraciones personales, la historia de nuestras relaciones y nuestro apego. Así pues, ahí es donde empieza todo: en la comprensión de la clase de apego que recibimos de nuestros cuidadores. La sucesión

the longitudinal research on child development clearly demonstrates that one of the very best predictors for how any child turns out—in terms of happiness, social and emotional development, leadership skills, meaningful relationships, and even academic and career success—is whether they developed security from having at least one person who showed up for them.

Children are particularly vulnerable to becoming the targets of the projection of our nonconscious emotions and unresolved issues.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote, "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them become what they are capable of being." Adolescence is not a period of being "crazy" or "immature." It is an essential time of emotional intensity, social engagement, and creativity.

Asking why, what, and how can help create an internal sense of clarity even in the face of external chaos.

This Yes Brain mindset is what we want for our kids, so that they learn to view obstacles and new experiences not as paralyzing impediments but simply as challenges to be faced and overcome and learned from.

To put it simply, asking the why-what-how questions helps us remember who our kids are and what they need.

By getting clear on your own experiences, and developing a coherent narrative about them—making sense of what happened to you and how it influenced your development—you can earn the type of attachment approach that allows you to learn how to parent in ways that are completely different from, and much healthier than, the ways you were raised.

Cómo gobernemos los años de la adolescencia tiene un impacto directo en cómo viviremos el resto de nuestra vida.

parent who recognizes an upstairs tantrum is left with one clear response: never negotiate with a terrorist. An upstairs tantrum calls for firm boundaries and a clear discussion about appropriate and inappropriate behavior.

Los cambios cerebrales que se dan durante los primeros años de la juventud establecen durante la adolescencia cuatro cualidades en nuestra mente: búsqueda de novedades, implicación social, aumento de la intensidad emocional y experimentación creativa.

From parental sensitivity and structure emerge a child's resourcefulness, resilience, and relational ability.

You can become the safe harbor for your own children that you never had as a child.

remember how important it is to discipline this one child in this one moment.