Quotes from Daniel J. Siegel

Dios, concédeme serenidad para aceptar las cosas que no puedo cambiar, valor para cambiar aquellas que puedo, y sabiduría para reconocer la diferencia.»

Integration in this way is not the same as blending or making all the same and homogenous. Integration has the essential feature of retaining the differences and establishing connections that don't obliterate those differences.

In terms of development, very young children are right-hemisphere dominant, especially during their first three years.

Sometimes we assume that our kids won't behave the way we want them to, when in reality, they simply can't, at least not in this particular moment.

You know, the PTA president who cooks organic, well-balanced meals while reading to her kids in Latin about the importance of helping others, then escorts them to the art museum in the hybrid that plays classical music and mists lavender aromatherapy through the air-conditioning vents.

self and mind may be deeply interrelated, with self being constructed from the experience of mind.

El izquierdo se centra en el texto; el derecho tiene que ver con el contexto.

Self-regulation appears to depend upon neural integration.

When we avoid bringing extra chaos and drama to disciplinary situations—in other words, when we combine clear and consistent limits with loving empathy—everyone wins.

Benefit #1: Connection Moves a Child from Reactivity to Receptivity

Another problem with spanking is that it teaches the child that the parent has no effective strategy short of inflicting bodily pain. That's a direct lesson every parent should consider quite deeply: do we want to teach our kids that the way to resolve a conflict is to inflict physical pain, particularly on someone who is defenseless and cannot fight back?

It means being there for your kids. It means being physically present, as well as providing a quality of presence. Provide it when you're meeting their needs; when you're expressing your love to them; when you're disciplining them; when you're laughing together; even when you're arguing with them.

While that sense of familiarity in a stressed life of adult responsibilities is understandable, as we've seen, it may also be a reason why the adult-adolescent relationship is filled at times with tension. Adults desire things to stay the same; adolescents are driven to create a new world. This is part of the source of what can become intense friction, sometimes destructively so, that can create pain in everyone, adolescent and adult alike.

So when children feel furious, dejected, ashamed, embarrassed, overwhelmed, or out of control in any other way, that's when we need to be there for them. Through connection, we can soothe their internal storm, help them calm down, and assist them in making better decisions

They are so in touch with themselves that they are open toward everyone." What

Knowing that our kids live with and through whatever we're experiencing is a powerful insight that can motivate us to begin and continue our journey toward understanding our own stories, the joys as well as the pain.

By making sense of your past you can free yourself from what might otherwise be a cross-generational legacy of pain and insecure attachment, and instead create an inheritance of nurturance and love for your children.

like sound decision making, control of their emotions and bodies, empathy, self-understanding, and morality—are dependent on a part of their brain that hasn't fully developed yet. Since

A Yes Brain approach to parenting is a way of being with each of your children that helps them develop this way of remaining in touch with their inner essence, cultivating this authentic internal compass.

Eventually, you will come to know with all your brain cells that your authentic self is the one thing you can trust the most.

Qué es lo más importante que puedo hacer por mis hijos para ayudarlos a salir adelante y a sentirse a gusto en el mundo?

del cerebro, sabemos que el hijo de Tina experimentaba grandes oleadas de emociones del cerebro derecho sin el equilibrio lógico proporcionado por el cerebro izquierdo. En un momento así, una de las respuestas menos eficaces que podía dar Tina era ponerse directamente a la defensiva («¡Claro que te hago cosas bonitas!») o

Instead, the point here is about embracing the notion that one can live with an internal focus of motivation and a sense of respect for the inner, authentic experience of being alive.

eudaimonia, is filled with meaning, connection, and equanimity in life.