Quotes from Gavin de Becker

As parent and child advocate Anna McDonnell says, "To have a child is to have the chance to revisit your own childhood and self, and sometimes to make changes that have been needed for a long while." Trained for decades to interact with men in ways that serve the patriarchy, the new mother must answer to no man if doing so might place her or her child at risk.

Frank Sulloway, author of Born to Rebel, says that "Life's miseries fall disproportionately on children

the simple defense for forced teaming, which is to make a clear refusal to accept the concept of partnership: "I did not ask for your help and I do not want it.

Worry is a way to avoid admitting powerlessness over something, since worry feels like we're doing something.

A rock pile ceases to be a rock pile the moment a single man contemplates it, bearing within him the image of a cathedral." —Antoine De Saint-Exupery See

multiple-murderer Jack Henry Abbott's book In The Belly of the Beast.

We may suppress an objectionable thought about a friend, but the only way to really banish a thought is to consider it.

With judgment comes the ability to disregard your own intuition unless you can explain it logically, the eagerness to judge and convict your own feelings, rather than honor them.

When we accept that violence is committed by people who look and act like people, we silence the voice of denial, the voice that whispers, "This guy doesn't look like a killer." Our

John Kennedy once made the point that assassins could not be stopped because "all anyone has to do is be willing to trade his life for the President's.

I noted a report indicating that a book written by expert tracker Tom Brown was missing from the Jennings County Library. We knew that Perry had once checked out another book by Brown called The Search.

Information Anxiety, Richard Saul

The same way others become people we select for inclusion in our lives: We learn enough about them, they pass several of our tests, they lose their anonymity, and we discover an acceptable degree of shared values. The

Imagine a widely televised report: "Dolphin attacks swimmer!" Such a story would make a new connection in the minds of literally millions of people: Dolphins are dangerous to man (which they are not). Though unusual animal-attack stories are good news fodder, humans are not the favored prey of any predator. (We are somewhat bony, low on meat, and smart as the Dickens.) The point is that your survival brilliance is wasted when you focus on unlikely risks. Unfortunately

Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman describes seven key abilities most beneficial for human beings: the ability to motivate ourselves, to persist against frustration, to delay gratification, to regulate moods, to hope, to empathize, and to control impulse.

When you accept the survival signal as a welcome message and quickly evaluate the environment or situation, fear stops in an instant. Thus, trusting intuition is the exact opposite of living in fear. In fact, the role of fear in your life lessens as your mind and body come to know that you will listen to the quiet wind-chime, and have no need for

In Mr. Kaye's crazy arms race, would we someday judge schools by comparing the ratio of armed students to armed teachers?

the TIME syndrome, which is the introduction of threats, intimidations, manipulations, and escalation. Manipulations are statements intended to influence outcome without resorting to threat. Escalations are actions intended to cause fear, upset, or anxiety, such as showing up somewhere uninvited, sending something alarming, damaging something, or acting sinister.

I've presented these facts about the frequency of violence for a reason: to increase the likelihood that you will believe it is at least possible that you or someone you care for will be a victim at some time. That belief is a key element in recognizing when you are in the presence of danger. That belief balances denial, the powerful and cunning enemy of successful predictions.

Many parents think it does. When they want to underscore the importance of a given instruction, they attach some dreadful outcome to it: "Come right home; you don't want to get kidnapped," "Don't go there alone; remember, anyone could be a killer," and on and on. There

When you try to manage or reason with such a person, you find that he is not reacting to what you say but rather to what he expects you to say; he is reacting to his script.

Like other assassins, Bardo had stalked several famous people, including a client of mine whom he decided was too inaccessible. He gave up on her and switched his attention to Rebecca Schaeffer. For assassins, it is the act and not the target, the destination, not the journey that matters

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The concept of appropriate supervision can be stated in six words: praise for performance—correction for errors.