Quotes About Coping

The chip on my shoulder's a little heavy. I have back problems now.

You can get through very serious and sometimes horrible and sometimes embarrassing and very awkward situations with humor. It gives us a way out.

No matter how often I think I can't stand it anymore, I always do. There is no alternative. I don't fall, I don't foam at the mouth, faint, collapse or die. It's the same for all of us. You can't get out of the inside of your own head. Something keeps you going. Something always does.

When you feel that you aren't like everyone else or feel tainted by what has happened to you, it's hard to be optimistic about the future. In fact, for many survivors, it's nearly impossible to imagine the future at all. Many of us are caught in a state where we're still just trying to survive (our sole focus during trauma) and can't think much beyond that. Time for us is frozen and the future feels hazy at best.

As Babette Rothschild says, "Often talking about what happened will be important for the survivor in the immediate aftermath of the event. Telling and re-telling the story to caring individuals may help prevent dissociation, and aid in integrating the experience."20

Living with a high level of emotional reactivity is hell. It's no fun for you and no fun for people around you. You feel sensitive about everything and feel like life never lets you rest. Being reactive is essentially feeling chronically overwhelmed.

If you are plagued by trauma symptoms but have no memories, that itself becomes an issue to make peace with.

Although the number of these alters varies widely, the average is about ten, and research suggests that the average age at which alters begin developing is just under six years old.30 The transition from one personality to another (called switching) is most often sudden and triggered by some environmental cue.

The lies we tell ourselves. Comforting justifications, designed to try and fill the holes in us. I

He justifies the cigarette burns as, "my way of not screaming or shouting when things fuck up. It's just discipline, and something to do. We never call each other cunts and wankers in this band. We just walk away." "What I usually do," pitches in Nicky, "is put all my clothes in the sink and wash 'em. That's the difference between him and me!

The irrational fear gene lives on in us all. It's irritating, but these things need to be handled the same way as when you've taken a bad drug. Simply tell yourself how these crazy thoughts and anxieties are just down to the drug, nothing else. Then arm yourself, just in case. Damn

But, hey, remember: If things don't work out in your life, you can always just turn to drugs or join the Army.

The age at which a man begins using drugs or alcohol to deal with life's problems is the emotional age at which he remains.

I think I would cope like anyone copes with any tragedy. I'm sure I would be very upset for a while and then there would come a point where I would either have to stay in this place of darkness and anger, or I'd have to accept that it happened.

But I remember the moment when my father died. I wasn't a very committed Catholic beforehand, but when that happened it suddenly all felt so obvious: I now believe religion is our attempt to find an explanation, for us to feel more protected.

Hay un escritor llamado Clerk o Lewis que escribió sobre sí mismo tras la muerte de su mujer, y empezó diciendo: "Nadie me dijo nunca que la pena fuera una sensación tan parecida al miedo

O mal das desgraças muito grandes, que nos partem ao meio e que parece que não vamos poder suportar, é que quem as padece acredita, ou quase exige que com elas o mundo acabe, e contudo o mundo não faz caso e continua, e ainda por cima é exigente com quem sofreu a desgraça, isto é, não lhe permite sair como quem abandona um teatro, a não ser que o desgraçado se mate.

Coqueteé ocasionalmente con la desesperación, nunca por gusto sino porque ataca sin avisar;

Children in particular find strong negative emotions too overwhelming to cope with and tend to try not to feel them. In the absence of a fully conscious adult who guides them with love and compassionate understanding into facing the emotion directly, choosing not to feel it is indeed the only option for the child at that time.

Fear is divorced from any concrete and true immediate danger. It is always of something that *might* happen, not of something that is happening now. *You* are in the here and now, while your mind is in the future. This creates an anxiety gap. You cannot cope with something that is only a mind projection.

Cualquiera que sea la sustancia que origine la adicción —alcohol, comida, drogas (legales o ilegales) o una persona—, estás usando algo o a alguien para encubrir tu dolor.

Whenever tragic loss occurs, you either resist or you yield.

It is strange how new and unexpected conditions bring out unguessed ability to meet them.

If you cannot imagine pain fully, neither can you fully imagine the resources you have in you to meet it and overcome it.