Quotes About Coping

They had never met, but she had come to understand what had driven Victor's wife to seek refuge in a full set of Snoopy mugs.

It is as if we want to believe the lie. Perhaps we blame ourselves because in a strange way it helps us feel as if we have more control. If we are responsible for whatever went wrong, for whatever hurt us, we might be able to figure out how to keep it from happening again.

Then, when shame strikes, it is so nasty you have to numb yourself, and what better anesthetic than your addiction? It is the perfect vicious circle.

I want to figure out how people can go on with their lives when mine has changed so much. I want to relearn how to breathe without carrying this big, empty cave inside me.

When we are uncertain, undecided, embarrassed, or have stage fright, we lose the sensation of self. We sometimes say after an embarrassing moment, "I was completely at sea, I was lost, I was out of my mind." and so on. If the uncertainty is great then feelings of anxiety, fear, or panic can flood in. So we develop strategies to cope with the anxiety by restoring the sensation of self. Men stroke their chins using the stubble as a kind of sandpaper. Women touch their hair.

Tears are the safety valve of the heart when too much pressure is laid on it.

Tears are the safety value of the heart when too much pressure is laid on it .

I know as well as anybody how hard it is to live after a grave loss. But life needs to go on, it must never stop. It is our duty to keep life going.

There are people who just live and there are people who just survive," Bega had said. "Americans live, we survive.

The word felt good, liberating. So, I repeat it. "Fuck." Then, again. And again. Because it made me someone else, someone normal and happy, someone who used words like that, like St. John. I repeated it, over and over until she walked away, wounded. Then, I was glad. And still, I kept repeating it, because that was the only thing that kept me from crying.

I'm starting to loose touch with reality, but reality sort of sucks.

Christmases after his death were usually as unpredictable as they were untenable. It depended on how early in the day—or the evening before—her mother decided to start the festivities and who the guests would be—Jim Beam, José Cuervo or Jack Daniel. If the year had been especially successful, Johnnie Walker might replace all the others.

In life's most difficult situations, it is our capacity to cope and personal resiliency that are put to the ultimate test. It's then that the freedom to choose our attitude takes center stage. To exercise this freedom effectively, however, we must be able to view any given situation from different vantage points. We must know we are and be flexible and courageous enough to make a shift when necessary, even if it means moving away from what is expected or considered "normal.

Whenever we suffer — no matter what the severity of our suffering is — we have the ability to find meaning in the situation.

I think you can never know what you can live without. I think you can never know what you will live through. Only when the disaster arrives and you are there does the depth of your real inner resources reveal itself, and not a moment before

We must make the best of those ills which cannot be avoided.

I am more and more convinced that our happiness or unhappiness depends more on the way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves.

Phantasy provides a kind of temporary glue, which keeps people from falling apart through the production of illusions which enable them somehow to live with themselves.

suppressing a feeling doesn't make it go away; it only pushes it deeper into the unconscious. By this action we internalize the problem.

You learn not to mourn every little thing out here, or you'd never, ever stop grieving.

It's true what they say: life does go on and joy does return, and often it's in the most unexpected of places,' she continues, 'but you never get over losing someone; you just get better at coping with it.

Embrace your sense of humour, don't ever take yourself too seriously, every day is another chance to laugh instead of cry, and when nothing is certain, everything is a hell of a lot less scary when you make fun of it. Amen.

but having witnessed Cricket's heartbreak, there seems to be little comfort to be gained when someone you love dies. It's just a case of necessity. Of getting on with it. Of putting one foot in front of the other, and breathing in and out.

When things are at their worst, Scarlett, the only thing to do is find something to laugh about. It keeps you sane… and it stops your teeth chattering from fear.