Quotes About Validation

When you take your music around to your people in the city or your label, and don't nobody like it, but you really like it, and you like, 'Dang, these folks don't hear what I hear.'

It's a great feeling being with a label that respects what I do.

A lot of people label me as not a defender for some reason. I don't know why.

A lot of people like to live on laurels that happened 20 or 30 years ago, but it's nice to get awards. It's nice to be labeled and things like that, but I'm not sure everybody qualifies.

I never used to get calls from artists or labels, but once you have a top 20 hit, you start getting them.

Stop spending so much time trying to prove what you already know to people who don't really matter. It just makes you look insecure and lacking self-confidence.

Every author these days is an award-winning novelist. Why? Because they set up an award contest and they dub themselves the winner.

When I turned fifty, a friend told me that one of the great joys of aging is no longer needing outside validation.

At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person.

The best theology would need no advocates; it would prove itself.

Don't look to the approval of others for your mental stability

I mean, if you have to wake up in the morning to be validated by the editorial page of the New York Times, you got a pretty sorry existence.

When a child expresses anger, hate, disappointment, resentment, hurt or whatever, let him feel what he feels without making a judgment about it or shaming him. Validate him and what he is feeling by verbalizing back to him what you think he is saying. When a child is shamed he gets the message that he is defective, flawed, or always making mistakes.

When parents accept each of their children the way they are, consistently validating their feelings—teaching them with love and patience, helping them understand what appropriate and inappropriate feelings are without judging, and then assist them in shifting their fear-based (inappropriate) feelings to love-based (appropriate) feelings by using the Script, these children will have a much better opportunity to progress through life with more confidence and higher self-esteem.

I wanted to believe someone liked me enough to claim me.

Can you be happy with the movies, and the ads, and the clothes in the stores, and the doctors, and the eyes as you walk down the street all telling you there is something wrong with you? No. You cannot be happy. Because, you poor darling baby, you believe them.

Doctor Dowers," teased Connie. "Listen," said Liz, "after all the crap I had to take in grad school, you bet everyone's calling me Doctor. I'll get my cabdriver to do it if I can. I'll make my mother do it.

For the first time, really, since beginning her PhD program, Connie felt secure. Validated.

Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge.

Her own nose was too long and her facial structure too bony for anyone ever to have asked her hand in marriage. She consoled herself for this by guzzling.

GIRL'S STORY #7: THE HARD-TO-PLEASE MOMMA Momma, I got a B, the daughter said. Who got an A? Momma answered. Momma, I showed in the track meet. Who placed? Momma answered. Momma, I placed in the track meet. Who won? Momma answered. The daughter was chosen Homecoming Queen, the daughter ran all the way home, Momma, Momma, the most wonderful thing happened, I was chosen attendant to the Homecoming Queen. Who's Queen? Momma answered. I am, said the daughter.

The day my father shook my hand, I knew I was a writer.

Does it count for anything that I just told you I love you?" Gable asked. I considered this briefly before deciding that it didn't. "Not really. Not when I know you don't mean it.

It is no longer enough to be competent and promising; a man wants now to be recognized and respected.