Quotes About Validation

You can't take everything with you when you leave on the midlife journey. You are moving away. Away from institutional claims and other people's agenda. Away from external valuations and accreditations, in search of an inner validation. You are moving out of roles and into the self.

All of us blossom when we feel loved and wither when we do not feel loved.

Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.

Maybe this happens to you every day, but I think it was the first time I could hardly wait to show something that I'd done to someone who would care besides my mother. You know how that feels?

it may feel as if they just want you to stop being you.

Never look to other couples to measure your worth; look to God to fulfill your call.

All I wanted was to be loved for myself." (Erik)

But do you love me? If Erik were good-looking, would you love me, Christine?

We want recognition, not accomplishment.

when a victim tells her story and people respond with You-should-have-this or You-should-never-have-that, they are often adding to the victimization.

What if the Christian faith is supposed to exist in a variety of forms rather than just one imperial one? What if it is both more stable and more agile—more responsive to the Holy Spirit—when it exists in these many forms? And what if, instead of arguing about which form is correct and legitimate, we were to honor, appreciate, and validate one another and see ourselves as servants of one grander mission, apostles of one greater message, seekers on one ultimate quest?

The trick is not caring what EVERYBODY thinks of you and just caring about what the RIGHT people think of you.

The primary human need, he decided—stronger than the need for food or sex or love—is the need for recognition, the need to make a mark in the world.

The desire to learn from people was always bound up with the desire to seem special to them.

4Then God added his witness to theirs. He validated their ministry with signs, astonishing wonders, all kinds of powerful miracles,f and by the gifts of the Holy Spirit,g which he distributed as he desired.

Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?

Who was that?" I asked my aunt "Him?" my aunt said, and I could hear the shrug in her voice. "He's no one." "All right," I said, trying to make my shrug audible, too. But in truth, I was happy to hear Aunt Beatrice say he was no one. It is easier to feel like you're someone if you know someone else is no one.

There is, in lovers, a certain infatuation of egotism; they will have a witness of their happiness, cost that witness what it may.

The struggles I endured as a child are what allowed me to recognize and care about pain in others. The validation I longed for as a child is what I see other people longing for just as intensely.

Oprah: In every single interaction, there is a moment when we all wonder, Do you see me? Do you hear me? Children know from birth whether their caregiver's eyes light up when they enter a room. They sense and respond to tenderness, playfulness, compassion, and patience. They know the true feeling of quality time. They know they are loved.

Everyone needs people who can listen, be present, and make them feel heard and seen.

All of us want to know that what we do, what we say, and who we are matters.

pathological need to be needed and their identities revolve around being seen as nurturers and helpers.

What I've learned from talking to so many victims of traumatic events, abuse, or neglect is that after absorbing these painful experiences, the child begins to ache. A deep longing to feel needed, validated, and valued begins to take hold. As these children grow, they lack the ability to set a standard for what they deserve. And if that lack is not addressed, what