Quotes About Validation

We don't begin our lives by asking: Am I enough? Am I worthy? Am I deserving or lovable?

The struggles I endured as a child are what allowed me to recognize and care about pain in others. The validation I longed for as a child is what I see other people longing for just as intensely. Thousands of people had the courage to share their stories with me because their story was my story. Their pain was my pain. Because all pain is the same. — Oprah

There is a difference between thinking you deserve to be happy and knowing you are worthy of happiness.

Here is the confusing part: James felt most comfortable when the world was in line with his worldview. Being rejected or treated poorly validated this view. The most destabilizing thing for anyone is to have their core beliefs challenged. As psychologist Virginia Satir puts it, we feel better with the certainty of misery than the misery of uncertainty. Good or bad, we are attracted to things that are familiar.

Ultimately, as Lacan puts it, all speech constitutes a demand for love. Whenever we speak, we are unconditionally asking to be heard (Lacan, 2015, p. 356), we are asking for our request to be recognized, we are asking to be responded to, we are asking to be loved.

First," said Ms. Johnson, "I want you to know that you are all winners," Why do grown-ups always say that? Duh,we know we're not all winners.

The more we value things, the less we value our selves. — We should devote ourselves to being self-sufficient and must not depend upon the external rating by others for our happiness. So it is true that the more we value things, the less we value our self. The more we depend upon others for esteem, the less we are self-sufficient.

The Super Bowl helped me sell a few new records and probably put a few extra fannies in the seats that tour. But what it was really about was this: I felt my band remained one of the mightiest in the land and I wanted you to know it. We

The child, so much more insecure than an adult, needs assurance that his need to engage in fantasy, or his inability to stop doing so, is not a deficiency.

It's horrible how money and fame can make you acceptable while, if you're not famous or rich, you're not acceptable.

Is it still a victory if you don't get the credit?

I'm tough, had to be. My parents tried to protect me by telling me that I was nothing and I would amount to nothing. That's why I'm so amazed when I hear middle-class parents telling their little bog-standard Imogens and Tims how wonderful they are.

The way he looks at me, all serious and attentive, was more flattering than any compliment I'd ever had

she loses not only her mother but also the encouragement and revalidation of the self she needs as well as the real sharing she would want to do with her mother at that time." It

Humans are much the same.20 Children whose gifts or disabilities make them seem bizarre, for example, manage to find each other and to congregate.21 Among our kind it's called validation. Without others on our wavelength the strangeness of our emotions can make us feel we're losing our minds.

Inner-judges measure our contribution to the social learning machine by two yardsticks: (1) our personal sense of mastery; and (2) the hints we get from those around us telling us whether they want us eagerly or couldn't care less if we disappeared like a blackhead from the face of decent society.

a nervous society where a man's image is frequently more important than his reality

I'm not a great believer in awards-of course the fact that I've never won one has nothing to do with it at all!

Atât timp cât un num?r suficient de oameni cred c? e autentic, chiar e.

Shooting hell out of a piece of cardboard doesn't prove anything' was his single-line introduction to the Small-arms Defence Manual.

Words, as I'm beginning to appreciate, can make things true.

Your reputation will rest only on this, because ultimately reality is social, it's among others that we have to live and their judgments matter.

I chuckled to myself and kept walking. The Universe had proven Curran wrong: a person who aggravated him more than me did, in fact, exist.

That young man that I was in 1988 - I was insecure. Besides making good music, I wanted to be cool; I wanted to be accepted and stuff.